New here, hoping to give and receive support. I'm a pansexual cis female who is somewhat non-conforming.
I've been in a relationship with my trans* girlfriend since May 5, 2014. We met in a recovery meeting, took things slowly for the first two months or so, and went full speed ahead after that.
In a lot of ways, we're like any "normal" couple. We watch "Doctor Who" and "Firefly" together and regularly beat each other at Trivia Crack. We're rabid fans of our respective sports teams and slightly obsessed with music. We negotiate who takes out the garbage and who washes the dishes. We discuss spending money on clothing and groceries. We have three cats who are our fur-children. I check her spelling; she leaves me to it when I get obsessive about cleaning. Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
There are also things about us that are atypical. She is a disabled veteran with PTSD, depression, and a mild TBI. I have bipolar disorder and ADHD. She has a school-age daughter from a pre-transition marriage and a recently widowed mother with Parkinson's disease. I have a grandmother with dementia. Oh yes, we also have a genderqueer roommate who is considering transitioning to female.
But we remind each other to breathe. We comfort each other when necessary and motivate each other when necessary. We remind each other to take our meds (we're like two little old ladies with our pill boxes
).
We've been very fortunate. Our respective friends are supportive. Her mother adores me, and even her daughter's mother approves of me. My parents and extended family are fond of her, and even my brother is coming around. My niece and nephew think she's awesome (she is).
So that's our long story. I hope I can be a source of support, and I know I will learn a great deal about how to support my girlfriend.
