Eye Contact

[Hecknado]

This isn't strictly LGBT related, but it might be.

Eye contact can be to do with shame/confidence and such.

I find it really really hard to comfortably make eye contact with anyone, unless I'm mad or have reason to not mind eye contacting someone ( which ive been told is cold staring ). In conversation I cannot look at people at all, a glance once or twice, and that's the limit I'm comfortable with.

Does anyone else have problems with eye contact?

[Cindy]

Hi Hon,

I think this is quite common and part of learning socialisation.

Making eye contact with a person when you talk to them is a sign of respect; they are equal to you, and you are equal to them. You appreciate their thoughts and opinions.

For women and men talking to each other, eye contact means he respects you; many men look at your chesticles - which means they don't respect me. Two men or two women not establishing eye contact may imply that you are deferring to them in their opinion and you regard your opinion as not important.

Your opinion is important!

It can take time but practice when talking to your friends. It may feel weird at first, but keep trying. You will get there in the end.

[Deborah]

I used to have trouble with it but I practiced a lot until it became second nature.  Now I find sometimes that I stare into other people's eyes so much that I think it makes them uncomfortable  and they are the ones continually looking away.  When I notice that happening I look away more to break the tension.


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[stephaniec]

personally  I find it one of the most annoying practices  of human conversation..  I force myself to do it ever so often when talking to someone because people seem to think your abnormal or your hiding something if you don't., Personally I'd rather look at empty space so my mind has enough room to contemplate the expanse of the universe. I really don't like being forced by some concept of human etiquette or should I say someone else's concept. Sorry for the rant.

[Katiepie]

Personally I find its situational. Like talking with friends, it is common practice to multitask, or just talk without the eye contact. But talking with strangers (ie; working retail, and talking to customers) its to focus on their face at a minimum, I find myself either entranced or focusing either on their lips, or into their eyes. Its a respect thing when talking to someone, besides maybe one day I can then start reading lips.

Kate <3

[stephaniec]

personally  I find it one of the most annoying practices  of human conversation..  I force myself to do it ever so often when talking to someone because people seem to think your abnormal or your hiding something if you don't., Personally I'd rather look at empty space so my mind has enough room to contemplate the expanse of the universe. I really don't like being forced by some concept of human etiquette or should I say someone else's concept. Sorry for the rant.

I thought about what I said and I want to make sure that you understand this is just how I personally feel on this and not to be taken in a mean way. Its just I have a problem myself with having to do that. A long time ago I kind of damaged my eyes ( I won't go into it now) and my eyes a very sensitive so when I talk to people I'm extremely aware of my eyes. I just find it personally annoying for myself to have to look at someone's eyes while talking. I don't like my eyes fixed on one point because I feel I can think better with more area for my eyes to cover.