hi Brooke

welcome to susans place[a safe and joyful place for us].
happy to know you have taken a step towards true yourself.
i could only suggest to believe in yourself and stay calm while you communicate with your wife .it will be helpful if you provide your childhood experiences as well as your gender desires. as far i am concerned relationships involves two persons that need not depend on gender so provide your wife assurance your support as well and how much you love her and leave it to her afterwards. a loving life partner will always understand.
have my blessings