Hi -
This isn't universally true but . . . controversial, difficult, sensational, etc. news seldom becomes easier to deal with given the passage of time, especially when it's core message unit profoundly alters the social fabric about you. Of course, just blurting out something isn't helpful or even respectful either.
You might consider a plan for a fairly simple and straight forward means of getting the word out that respects important relationships, but note that this doesn't mean coddling or otherwise being overly sensitive about getting it done fairly quickly once you open the channel. Just know that if you wait very long while coming out you'll likely loose any ability to manage the initial narrative (you may not care but you loose the high ground of transparency if you do so). Of course, the idea that you will manage it for long is a myth so don't take any elaborate steps to do so. Communicate and then respond as the discourse about your transition evolves.
I know this sounds like you are almost like some ineffectual prop in all this; quite the contrary, you are the reason and purpose for the communication and this provides you a platform to begin creating your future out in the world. However, social networks communicate in ways such that it is not inherently manageable, except at the macro level, despots excluded of course and you are far to sweet to be despotic . . . dramatic and charming I can imagine! 😘 Let me suggest your role is to be true to your word and be reasonable when at times the world around you is less so, and I sorry but at times it can difficult to do this but then you will have the new found strength of being yourself to cope.
Long may you enjoy the real you, for you deeply deserve it!
Best to you and yours,
Rachel
