success at transition: Is your glass half full or half empty

[stephaniec]

I think I see my glass as half full. I've got a long way to where I'd like to get ,  but I'm incredibly happy with how far I've come. I guess I'm one of the one's that really don't put too much worry into voice. I heard a woman a couple of days ago and If I wasn't looking right at her I'd swear she was male. I do alright with my method of soft and a little bit higher, it seems to work. I mean it would be great if my voice sounded perfectly female , but the hormones and facial change are the most important to me. I wish my total body would completely go female , but I can live with what I got except I need to stop eating. All in all I just past my two year mark and mentally I'm in great shape. So I'd say I'm a glass half full kind of girl. I'm just wondering how others feel and have absolutely no intent on harm.

[Martine A.]

What life has taught me is that appreciating what one has is important for mental health of a trans person.
It should not limit wishes of what still needs acquiring, but the focus should remain on what is already there. Doing so does make it easier for me to push forward.

Suppose that is the point of half full vs half empty.

[Ms Grace]

It really depends on a lot of factors and usually changes from day to day. Sometimes it is ten percent full, other times it might be thirty one percent empty, or six percent empty or one hundred percent full. It really depends. Overall it's not "perfect" whatever that might be but on the whole I'm very happy with my transition considering my age, height, etc. I consider myself extremely fortunate even on the days when the glass might feel mostly empty.

[stephaniec]

I know , I found a simple thing that has pick up my spirits, I got to a LGBT clinic and they put me on shots and it's a lot nicer because I don't have to worry about them falling of and Its a surer application. I was on the patches for two years and I'm tickled pink so a little step over to the  full side.

[warmbody28]

I feel like my glass is mostly full. i learn and grow so much every day

[Ashey]

Yeah I'd say mine is mostly full. I'm in a good point in my life finally, even transitioning aside. And I'm at a point in my transition where there are just a few lingering goals left but they aren't dominating my life right now. I've been living my life as a woman, and that was the point so I'm doing fine in that regard. Mostly just coping with being female, and everything that comes with that, the good and the bad.

[Anna33]

Full for me, but it depends. At a personal level i feel better than ever. My honest only worry right now is how the people in my life are going to react. Some of them, at least. The ones i came out to are being extremely supportive and nice. But sometimes i overhear transphobic comments from coworkers and find it hard to come out to them.

Like stephanie said: Im not very picky about my voice at this point either. It will come. The ppl i care about know that im a mtf and that these things take time


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[stephaniec]

The thing is every thing takes time , but time does its own thing and once your where you want to get it really doesn't seem like it's taken very much time. I'm just enjoying a long sought after ride.

[Christine Eryn]

As I sit here recovering from my 2nd FFS surgery, I can say my glass is almost full. I worked my ass off, paid my dues, put in the money/time/pain to get me to where I'm at. Now I'm ready to just live my life and not think about transitioning all the damn time. After I do my legal changes I'll be set. 

[Karen5519]

As I sit here recovering from my 2nd FFS surgery, I can say my glass is almost full. I worked my ass off, paid my dues, put in the money/time/pain to get me to where I'm at. Now I'm ready to just live my life and not think about transitioning all the damn time. After I do my legal changes I'll be set. 

Congrats!  It will only get better for you now.  You will find as time goes by that all the money and effort was definitely worth it.  Enjoy!

[FluffyPunk]

M 9.5 months into mi chemical evolution, an I can say I have found a lot of peace with myself an mi changing body thus far. I still got a long way to go, srs to eventually undergo, an I need a throat scrape, but all in all life and mi evolution ar fantastic.

[Frae]

This reminds me of a great quote.

"An optimist will tell you the glass is half full, a pessimist half empty. But an engineer would tell you the glass is twice as big as it needs to be"

There's a moral in there about controlling your expectations or something but I mostly just like making fun of engineers.

[Valwen]

mostly empty though I try and fill it up, I think there is a hole in it, or my hands are too shaky because it keeps getting empty again. Its best I don't think too much about it that helps keep it from spilling.

Serena, who may have taken the metaphor too far.

[Frae]

mostly empty though I try and fill it up, I think there is a hole in it, or my hands are too shaky because it keeps getting empty again. Its best I don't think too much about it that helps keep it from spilling.

Serena, who may have taken the metaphor too far.

Metaphors are all liars. Torture is the only way to get the truth out of them 

[Jenny07]

Why worry about the glass and drink straight from the bottle?
Saves washing up.

[Ashey]

mostly empty though I try and fill it up, I think there is a hole in it, or my hands are too shaky because it keeps getting empty again. Its best I don't think too much about it that helps keep it from spilling.

Serena, who may have taken the metaphor too far.

*Hugs you and puts duct-tape over the hole in your glass.*

Why worry about the glass and drink straight from the bottle?
Saves washing up.

Hehe, yes! That's how I do it!

[Kirsty48]

Definitely half full, very positive and happy to be where I am in advance of any medical 'intervention' which is another three months away before I even get my first appointment at the clinic.  This has the benefit that I will have established my routine and be better placed to deal with things as they come along.

Have to agree with stephaniec about the voice - but at my age not sure what would be sensible / achievable .  I have learned not to be frustrated when I get misread over the phone - its not really their fault (except when I clearly identify myself as Kirsty  and even then I feel that it is not always appropriate to point that out!!) 

However, I would be grateful for any tips as to how to guide people in the gentlest way - if I am going to meet someone, I wish to have any misapprehensions addressed beforehand so there is no potential for discomfort or awkwardness on initial meeting.  K xx

[iKate]

Barely half full. I pass very well but I have a ton of family issues I need to sort out.

[Catherine Sarah]

If no body minds, I'd like to break all norms (not the only thing I've broken recently)

In all sincerity, but my glass is over flowing; and has been for some time.

I made a choice some time ago, irrespective of what "s**t happens," my glass would alway overflow. Hasn't stopped yet.

Speak to you as soon as I've finished knitting this cardigan.

Huggs
Catherine

[melissa_h]

I'm fairly optimistic ... HRT has me more comfortable with myself, less desire to add artificial padding. But I know it's a long road ahead.