going fulltime at home

[Julie summers]

my wife and i had a talk and she explained ow my dressing and not dressing is confusing to her and she want to be given the chance to see if she can get used to who i am or who i will become.
to be hones ti dont be myself a lot even though ive been on hrt since may im still learning so much and trying to get used to myself if you know what i mean.
my biggest fear is i am afraid that she will decide its to much and she is gone.
but that is life and i have to see what happens.

[FluffyPunk]

Married an planning to chemically transition?

[FluffyPunk]

that's a tough one, but bottom line is iffin yer planning to transition ye must bi prepared to loose EVERYTHING! Harsh but true. This is one na reasons that transition isn't fer everyone. There ar mani harsh reality's an side effects of transition. We gotta bi able to accept an live with them all. Best of luck to ye love.

[Julie summers]

yes married and going to transition.
But like i told my therapist i am going to do this at my own pace.
i know how hard this is going to be i was just sharing one of the many challenges i will be faceing as i grow
and things move along.
we might be married for the rest of our lives or i could be kicked out be friday.
who knows?
Like i said i don't have all the answers but at least i can share my own journey or answer any questions i can in the hopes it is of some help to someone else as they make there own journey.
And its normal to have fear when you love someone so much and dont want to lose her.
Hence the reason for taking my time and try and cover all the bases as i move along and give her the chance to make up her mind and not just overwhelm her with everything at once.
that all i can say for now.

julie

p.s
whats up with the spelling?
Don't mean to be rude just curious.

[Karlie Ann]

I believe Fluffypunk is from England - Cornwall or Scotland, maybe.  At least, that's how I've been reading her posts.

My wife and I are separated (3 months) for reasons not connected to me being trans, and right now, since she isn't coming home, I decided to see where this goes.  Best of luck to you from someone new on the journey too!

[FluffyPunk]

Oh dear Julie, I meant no offense just stated things poorly. Its difficult an yes we may possibly loose everything. Some of us stop there, some of us just cant though we wish we could. At yer pace an yer own ability is queen indeed.
As far as mi spelling, Anglish is mi 3rd an least favourite language. M Irish born an mi original language is a blend of olde Norse closest to Icelandic, an na Tara dialect of Irish Gaelige. I do work onnit a lot but theres some canges I both cannot an will not make compromising mi own language  to please others. It's a question I eventually get from everyone an I don't mind. But when folks ask mi to change it as I sound stupid to them... Well now that's like ye tellin mi to stay as a mano just to please everyone else. Or when folks think because mi Anglish seems remedial I must bi stupid... lol ya that's ok, go ahead an think that. Either wae bak on topic ye def got a lot ahead. we all do I suppose but hang in there love.

[Julie summers]

I knew i was on the right track
i was doing the irsh accent when i read it the first time.
i had to ask did not mean any offence i was just super curious.
don't change a thing i think it alwsome mysef.

hugs
julie

[FluffyPunk]

lol non taken love. I get that all na tyme. In fact methinks m gonna just make it part mi file lol.

[Kirsty48]

Good luck Julie and to you Karlie Ann too....  Good to take things at your own pace.....  As FluffyPunk says, you need to protect yourself by planning for the worst..... anything less becomes a bonus.... I have lost the person I thought of as my soulmate so I have to accept that as a consequence of being able to explore freely where I feel I need to be.... Very content so far!!  K xx

[Julie summers]

 yes i will and always plan for the worst its in my nature.
and good luck to you too karlie ann/
and yes you should make it part of your file