Well, If you're looking for forehead reconstruction and actual removal of masculine brow ridge (instead of just smoothing), you can easily cross dr. Mayer off your list, because he doesn't perform forehead reconstruction. I don't know if dr. Lee does it now, but I know he didn't do forehead reconstruction in the past, and he had to have his colleague dr. Gary Alter in surgery room who would perform type 3 reconstruction on his patients.
Swelling around eyes is hardcore for a week.. but it reduces in next week or two. There is no noticeable swelling in forehead. All the swelling goes down and it stays in your lower face regardless if you had any lower face work or not. How much and how long it stay it's depends from person to person, and how much work and care you actually put in, like using ice packs and doing facial massage. Generally it starts to get better after a week. Some people look presentable after third week... some other clearly look like they had facial surgery even after 2 months. We all react and heal differently.
Scalp advance doesnt hurt or cause headaches... whole area behind forehead incision (on top of scalp) will be temporarily numb, so you wouldnt even feel much. You might feel some tension...
If two surgeons you consulted already suggested chin implant, you must have somewhat receding chin. It's not feminine trait as some people might think it is in comparison with strong male forward projected chin. Receding chin is not aesthetic, and it mostly affects facial balance. Ideal feminine chin is at 2% receding angle (male is 0%). Chin implant is least invasive procedure, and it can also have a narrowing effect on your chin (besides improving projection), without performing any invasive osteotomy. It is inserted through small inside-mouth incision.
Personally, I would advise against chin implants, and suggest you to go for more invasive sliding genioplasty, if you decide to resolve receding chin problem.
You cant expect or wish for minimal recovery if you plan on having rather invasive facial surgery. Its not like you will have only rhinoplasty, or only upper blepharoplasty. Recovery takes its time on not just your face but whole body. As you mentioned you have good job, and you're in good position financially, you probably won't have a problem with taking 6-7 weeks off, and have more than enough time to recover. Having additional chin implant or sliding genioplasty won't really in any way effect your recovery time.