When I Think About When I'm Post Op Lesbian Transwoman I Get Very Sexual Thoughs

[Stephanie Sammantha]

I'm pre op, which inhibits my sexuality.

When I think about being in the right body. My mind sometimes turns into a sexual animal.

I'm resisting urges to not flirt with the women here.

I'm having thoughts right now I'm resisting not to type.

Does anyone else get like this ?

[suzifrommd]

Does anyone else get like this ?

Not exactly like that, but I did feel the desire to change my body shape in a largely sexual way. How could I not, when the most significant practical change that GRS makes is to my capabilities in the sexual world?

[Ms Grace]

This is a support site, not a flirt site, so keep that kind of behaviour to yourself. Thanks.

[♥︎ SarahD ♥︎]

As Ms Grace said, this isn't a dating site hun, so please continue resisting the urge to treat it like one if you please.  This needs to be a safe space where every female, male and colour of the rainbow in between can feel they can come and be themselves, and not be getting pestered by advances from other members.  Of course, it's ok to talk about those feelings (as you're doing here ), as it's all part of exploring who you are, and it's healthy to ask questions.  Just don't let it stray over the line hun lol

With that said, I do know what you mean.  You're gynosexual (means you like women / femininity) like me and many others on this site, so of course it makes sense that you'd have sexual feeling towards a female / feminine body and/or personality, even if it's your own (or the fantasy of what your own will be).

Personally I find those thoughts a little distressing though - it's like my brain is perving on itself, which is kinda "ugh"...    Fortunately as time has gone on, I've imagined myself as female in more and more non-sexual contexts (like going out to the shops for example), and I've found those feelings have calmed down a lot as a result, which I'm glad about

It has however helped me find out exactly where my orgasms come from - I always assumed it was my... ugh, "sausage"... that did it, but it turns out it isn't - it's actually behind that, a little deeper into my body.  Who knew? lol   Since discovering that though, I've found myself gaining an almost zen-like mastery over my orgasms and I can even multi-orgasm pretty consistently now.  Fyi, I'm not on hormones or anything yet lol, and if you're wondering, the trick is to (mentally) stop yourself *JUST* as it's about to happen (i.e "pull your punch", so to speak).  You'll get a partial orgasm, but (if you do it right), you wont go through with it completely and you can carry on to do it again and again.  It takes a lot of self-awareness and self-control, but hoooooly craaaap is it worth it!

*AHEM*, erm, anyway this is getting a little saucy so I'll leave it there for now lol

[Stephanie Sammantha]

Not exactly like that, but I did feel the desire to change my body shape in a largely sexual way. How could I not, when the most significant practical change that GRS makes is to my capabilities in the sexual world?

Thank You Very Very Very Much.

[Stephanie Sammantha]

This is a support site, not a flirt site, so keep that kind of behaviour to yourself. Thanks.

I'm pre op, so I'm not looking for love here nor a hook up.

What if I tell a woman I find her beautiful ?

Is that bad ?

[Stephanie Sammantha]

As Ms Grace said, this isn't a dating site hun, so please continue resisting the urge to treat it like one if you please.  This needs to be a safe space where every female, male and colour of the rainbow in between can feel they can come and be themselves, and not be getting pestered by advances from other members.  Of course, it's ok to talk about those feelings (as you're doing here ), as it's all part of exploring who you are, and it's healthy to ask questions.  Just don't let it stray over the line hun lol

With that said, I do know what you mean.  You're gynosexual (means you like women / femininity) like me and many others on this site, so of course it makes sense that you'd have sexual feeling towards a female / feminine body and/or personality, even if it's your own (or the fantasy of what your own will be).

Personally I find those thoughts a little distressing though - it's like my brain is perving on itself, which is kinda "ugh"...    Fortunately as time has gone on, I've imagined myself as female in more and more non-sexual contexts (like going out to the shops for example), and I've found those feelings have calmed down a lot as a result, which I'm glad about

It has however helped me find out exactly where my orgasms come from - I always assumed it was my... ugh, "sausage"... that did it, but it turns out it isn't - it's actually behind that, a little deeper into my body.  Who knew? lol   Since discovering that though, I've found myself gaining an almost zen-like mastery over my orgasms and I can even multi-orgasm pretty consistently now.  Fyi, I'm not on hormones or anything yet lol, and if you're wondering, the trick is to (mentally) stop yourself *JUST* as it's about to happen (i.e "pull your punch", so to speak).  You'll get a partial orgasm, but (if you do it right), you wont go through with it completely and you can carry on to do it again and again.  It takes a lot of self-awareness and self-control, but hoooooly craaaap is it worth it!

*AHEM*, erm, anyway this is getting a little saucy so I'll leave it there for now lol

I do have an intention to turn my face and body into a woman's face and body I would be attracted to.
Is that common with lesbian transwomen ?
Is that common with lesbian cis women ?

[Jenna Marie]

I found that HRT made my libido much more under my control, which was really nice. I can still have fun, but it doesn't dominate my thoughts when I don't want it to.

And being post-op  means that now I have to be sure I have at least an hour or so to devote to those sorts of activities.

[Stephanie Sammantha]

I found that HRT made my libido much more under my control, which was really nice. I can still have fun, but it doesn't dominate my thoughts when I don't want it to.

And being post-op  means that now I have to be sure I have at least an hour or so to devote to those sorts of activities.

I don't want my sex drive to go down. That's one thing I see as a downside. I wish I had this sex drive and have a woman's body.

[Jenna Marie]

Well, it doesn't go down for everyone... and to be clear, I meant I still retained functionality of the unwanted parts right up to GRS, I just stopped having that obsessive *need* for sex.

[Stephanie Sammantha]

Well, it doesn't go down for everyone... and to be clear, I meant I still retained functionality of the unwanted parts right up to GRS, I just stopped having that obsessive *need* for sex.

If I was post op, would the obsessive need for sex be a bad thing LOL ?


By the way, I'm a virgin.

[Jenna Marie]

I can't say if it's a bad thing for you. It was for me; I like having some extra brainpower back!

[Stephanie Sammantha]

I can't say if it's a bad thing for you. It was for me; I like having some extra brainpower back!

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