Am I weird? MTF and like men

[lettie]

I'm MTF post-op for decades. I live in a big city and attend various support groups etc. at times. It seems like there are lots of women who identify as lesbian or asexual, but no one, except sex-workers attracted to men. I like men. I have a profession, I write, I have never been a sex-worker, I actually identify with many of the people on this board a lot, but I just do not get why I am different. I have bf, who is not totally straight (I wouldn't consider myself a model for all women either). Do any of the women here ever even consider men? In fantasy? I have written two novels with happy endings (Yes, this is advertising; but how many trans novels with happy endings exist? How many?) Lettie Zeste on Amazon/kindle; 'Almost' (for grown-ups) and 'Not quite the same' (for teens). But this fiction is based on the idea that boys and girls might want to be together (in 'Not quite the same' the guy is weakly a CD, but he is basically masculine). I would like to write more in the Trans genre, but I feel like I do not get my audience. I understand the audience for romance novels, but I am missing something with this group, though I really wish that I could connect. Any ideas? Is the concept of men and women together totally dated?
- Lettie

[Kellam]

It's funny, I am asexual and it seems like everyone here is straight, bi or lesbian! Perhaps trans women are just so used to feeling lonely that we seek that niche wherever we go. But for real there are tons of women here with boyfriends and husbands etc. i even have an aesthetic atraction to masculine bodies and presentations.

[stephaniec]

I'm bisexual , does that count

[Dena]

I am Demisexual so I really haven't figured it out yet and may never but in any case, there are threads where many MTF declare they will seek out men after surgery. There are also a number who are post surgical who have described their post surgical activities as heterosexual. It goes through cycles and lately there seem to be a number who are dealing with wives and girlfriends but last summer I was seeing more in the heterosexual area.

No, you aren't weird but I think you took a look at this site at the wrong time. I have been living here for about 6 months and haven't missed much.

[Ms Grace]

Hey lettie

Welcome to Susan's    Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

There are plenty of trans women who are attracted to men (and who are not sex workers either). Don't define your sexuality by what other people are doing, follow your own heart, passion and desires.

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[Martine A.]

It is fine.
Some girls like boys. Some discover it on HRT, some before it.

[iKate]

I'm attracted to straight men and they are attracted to me. I'm not a sex worker.

*shrugs*

[Urban Christina]

I don't see how it's "weird"- I'm attracted to men and never worked as a sex worker.

[April_TO]

I am a straight woman and will only date men. I'm also not a sex worker

Hugs,

[MichaelaLJ1972]

I consider myself to be a straight trans woman. I love straight men.

[Wild Flower]

I was a sexy worker... But never a sex worker.

But I am only attracted to men.

[cheryl reeves]

I'm complicated,im only attracted to women. This has helped our marriage too survive.

[RobynD]

i don't think your atypical at all. I'm bisexual. Married to a woman. I have always liked men as well. Before marriage and transition i had relationships with guys. Really my attraction to both genders is pretty equal. The person's character is the most important thing.

[Kathleenmarie]

I like men, straight men with amazing abs and hair.  So,l..no your not weird

[Dankster]

I'm willing to hookup with anyone, as long as I find them attractive.

[Deborah]

I'm bi and with some evidence think I might lean towards men.  However, I'm married and monogamous so it's not an issue open for exploration.

[Cute Ida]

It's not weird at all. I started out as lesbian and within the last year I've begun to identify as bi-sexual. I am starting to become more and more attracted to men the longer I transition and the longer I am on female hormones. It's entirely possible that I've been Bi all along but didn't realize it. Very soon here I will begin dating a bi-sexual man. He sees me as a woman. He's the first man I've ever fallen for. So you're not alone, there are lots of other trans-women that are attracted to men.

[Kathleenmarie]

Plus,.anal sex is da bomb yo!

[warmbody28]

Im not into other females. im into guys and many other T girls my age I know are into guys as well. im not sure what you mean by the other part? maybe some people have male habits is what your trying to say? i think it has to do with some people living as male for so long those habits are hard to break? idk

[Ashey]

Plus,.anal sex is da bomb yo!

Agreed! I mean, I've always liked anal stimulation, but then with the hormonal influence as well as guys noticing me more... it all just ended up clicking. I still like women though, but it's harder for me to think about women sexually when I'm not exactly equipped for lesbian sex.. I just feel like it'd be harder to get with a woman as a woman if she knows I have male parts. I know many would be accepting, but my last ex-gf is a lesbian and we were together before I transitioned, so she instilled a lot of worry about that since she didn't have much interest in me sexually. Men though... I get a lot of interest from them, and have been with several intimately.. The sex is good when it's good, but dealing with how men are, especially in terms of a relationship, can be quite frustrating. :/ I still wonder if I'm going to end up leaning more one way or the other. I mean, I do at various times, but I wish I'd settle on a preference... Otherwise being bisexual, for me, is frustrating and annoying. >_<