Quote from: an0npr0xi01 on December 05, 2015, 09:28:11 PM
(Question 1: Romance ) Over the years, I've learned to pass. But the journey left me with a lot of scars. That make maintaining and sprouting relationships hard. One of my biggest fears atm is that I'll be alone all my life. I do get hit on quite a bit. But what I can't figure out is filtering out fetish lovers, the people who genuinely care, and the ones wouldn't mind putting a hole through my face if they found out?
Try to meet people you like, you have a warm feeling with.
People you have a feeling you can click with, and which are nice.
Usually if they are a nice and maybe a bit sensible person they can accept.
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(Question 2: hormones) I have real hard time dealing with hormone mood swing as well. I just got back spironolactone after at least three months of both losing it, and my employment.But when the mood swings happen. I become immune to my better judgment or throw myself in increasingly deep depressions. I grow almost violent if people press issues I explain need to stop or cut too deeply.It frightens me how angry I get.I'm planning on my making finding a new therapist my next priority and antidepressant will resume after. But does have any mental exercises they do during these situations?
There are a few things that can be done.
hormonal:
-many people take micronized estrogen sublingual. It helps lessen the strain on the liver and is supposed to be causing less clotting factors. But it can make for a peak in levels. Spreading the daily dose in for example four smaller doses instead of two big ones can help with more steady levels, which might help with mood. Otherwise it could be a menopausal like effect twice a day, with rising and dropping levels.
-another strategy could be additionally to pills one estrogen skin patch for a steady level
-with injections weekly or five days application instead of biweekly or every ten days also makes for more steady levels.
You could additionally try to avoid getting into strong emotions, not feeding them. A more laid back attitude. The right hormone level could help here, many people go for a level of 200 pg/ml of estrogen or above. So above menopausal levels.
generally taking things more easy, and solving them instead of getting into a mood.
You might take up meditation and regularly take a break, like having a cup of tea, and relaxing for a few minutes, a few times a day. Also not too many activities, and not too aggressive music.
Here from page two on are a few hints :
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(Question 3: Friends) I really like the friends I have. But I'm becoming tired of being treated differently than the rest of the group. They've never confirmed a thing, But I can tell it's because I'm trans. I do love them. But I can't shake the feeling of maybe I might need new friends? They've always been very excepting, but some slip gender pronouns at times or get uncomfortable trying to give me compliments. I wouldn't mind, but I've been both this far into my transition since 2013 some of them are better than others. But the biggest problem is I don't know how to make new ones.
When I do. They instantly assume I'm a cis-woman which is exactly what I want them to think.But sooner or later they meet someone who knows someone that knew me before my transition meets them. Spills the beans and everything grows awkward.I'd love to be straight forward, but people have abused that information and used it to hurt me in the past. I'm afraid of it affecting my employment to because it has in the past. Advice please?
this is from a blog:
"Why am I being a bitch about this? Well, let me clarify that I am not going to be "kicking out" any friends who know I'm trans. I can't ignore the fact that my family, my work, and my school probably all know, or at least the rumor is floating around. However, I'm not going to tolerate anyone who feels its their right to share that about me. I will shy away from spending time with people who spread it. I don't want to live my life as a trans woman. I want to live my life. I want to be happy. That's why I transitioned in the first place. Therefore, I don't want the fact that I'm a woman, or that I'm trans, or that I'm white, or atheist, or pansexual to flavor someone's impression of me. I want their impression of me to be based on who I am as a person; on what my personality is like; on how I treat people; on my energy level. I want to be friends with people because we click, not because we both used to be a different gender."
-you might tell people that it is your part to tell you are transgender. Its nobyody elses business.
So an attitude of not flaunting it but not hiding in case either could help.
And not making a big deal out of it, so people are more likely to do so too.
Also saying that people do not need to be walking on eggshells because of it... if they do not mean harm intentionally...
and that transgender people are people too, with normal needs and cravings.
*hugs*
