Second date with a guy ever tonight

[Angélique LaCava]

Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.

In all honesty I've seen hot straight guys go wit transgenders who were ugly n only went wit them for the tits. Like I've even been lied to by guys... They tell me they never fooled wit a transgender n never thought bout it till they met me n then later on I find out they hav been wit many n hav a full blown fetish. so u never know exactly who ur dating/hooking up wit till u actually know.

[Ashey]

In all honesty I've seen hot straight guys go wit transgenders who were ugly n only went wit them for the tits. Like I've even been lied to by guys... They tell me they never fooled wit a transgender n never thought bout it till they met me n then later on I find out they hav been wit many n hav a full blown fetish. so u never know exactly who ur dating/hooking up wit till u actually know.

Heh, in my experience it's not the tits they fetishize... But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys lie about a lot of things. I'm just going on what I know. Some of the guys I've been with I could tell they were inexperienced. While my genitals do get fetishized a lot, it's not just that most of the time. Wearing glasses is up there too. Having a 'hot geek' look has gotten me more attention than being trans. In dating profiles, like on POF or OKCupid, I tell people I'm trans but half the time it gets overlooked. Guys will message me based on pictures, which is awkward because then I have to explain I'm trans and some don't even believe me or don't want to believe me. And in situations like that, a lot of the time they ask some questions about it but they're still interested regardless. I have a lot more to offer people than just being trans and they know it. But yes, fetishization does happen, and you have to watch out for it, or even decide if it's something you can or are willing to deal with.

[Angélique LaCava]

Heh, in my experience it's not the tits they fetishize... But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys lie about a lot of things. I'm just going on what I know. Some of the guys I've been with I could tell they were inexperienced. While my genitals do get fetishized a lot, it's not just that most of the time. Wearing glasses is up there too. Having a 'hot geek' look has gotten me more attention than being trans. In dating profiles, like on POF or OKCupid, I tell people I'm trans but half the time it gets overlooked. Guys will message me based on pictures, which is awkward because then I have to explain I'm trans and some don't even believe me or don't want to believe me. And in situations like that, a lot of the time they ask some questions about it but they're still interested regardless. I have a lot more to offer people than just being trans and they know it. But yes, fetishization does happen, and you have to watch out for it, or even decide if it's something you can or are willing to deal with.

a lot of us hav more to offer than being transgender. A lot of us r gorgeous n still can't get guys to stay.in the end it's all bout luck. Guys hav hit on me where I work who didn't know n believe I was transgenders wen I told them cause they didn't think I looked anywhere near a man but did they want to date me? No. So it has nothing to do with looks,ect ect... It's luck. Ur just lucky wit guys u talk to.I've met guys on those dating sites who thought I was hotter than most girls but they still wernt interested cause of my male part.

[April_TO]

Thanks for the great advice Ashey, I was eating a butter tart when I was writing my post thinking who needs a bf when you can eat this everyday jk.

hugs.

Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.

[Ashey]

in the end it's all bout luck.

Bulls**t. I don't get guys because of luck, that's ridiculous, and it's also belittling. I get guys because I'm awesome and they like me for one reason or another. Am I lucky because of my looks? Partly, yes. It's that genetic lottery. But it seems you don't have a problem with that. I could say you're just as lucky. The rest though, was up to me. My personality, my overall likability or charisma, my intelligence, my interests which happen to be compatible with a lot of men's, my femininity, my confidence... those are all me, and have nothing to do with luck. Maybe you're just going about things the wrong way. Or maybe you're expecting too much in certain situations. Like just because a guy will flirt with you doesn't mean they're interested on going on a date. Also doesn't mean you should try to date every decent-looking guy that flirts with you. I can't say what it is that isn't working for you, but I'm sure there's someone (and more than just one) out there for you, you just have to keep at it.

[Angélique LaCava]

Bulls**t. I don't get guys because of luck, that's ridiculous, and it's also belittling. I get guys because I'm awesome and they like me for one reason or another. Am I lucky because of my looks? Partly, yes. It's that genetic lottery. But it seems you don't have a problem with that. I could say you're just as lucky. The rest though, was up to me. My personality, my overall likability or charisma, my intelligence, my interests which happen to be compatible with a lot of men's, my femininity, my confidence... those are all me, and have nothing to do with luck. Maybe you're just going about things the wrong way. Or maybe you're expecting too much in certain situations. Like just because a guy will flirt with you doesn't mean they're interested on going on a date. Also doesn't mean you should try to date every decent-looking guy that flirts with you. I can't say what it is that isn't working for you, but I'm sure there's someone (and more than just one) out there for you, you just have to keep at it.

by luck I didn't mean ur ugly. I meant ur lucky in getting guys who are open to it. Like I said a lot of guys find me attractive but they arnt interested cause I hav male genitalia. So yes u r lucky to find guys that r open minded cause if they wernt they wouldn't talk to u after u said u were transgender.

[Mallory]

You're in Louisiana; Ashey is in Florida.  Demographics vary so widely from town to town, even more state to state, region to region.  You may have an overtly sexually oppressed male population in Louisiana where as you may have tons of kink and open mindedness in Florida.

Locale sometimes makes a big difference.

[iKate]

A lot of guys won't date us because they're looking to settle down and have families (as hard as that is to believe). Matters more when you're older. But after a certain point, you have people divorced with kids who don't want any more who want a partner who maybe doesn't want any more either.  It's a different dynamic.

[Keri]

Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.

Ashey
Love your attitude.  I don't want a shallow man who is phobic in anyway  I also don't have to be with the best looking guy ever.. I am not shallow... I can't afford to be.
I had mentioned about 50 percent of men I have had hit on me would date me.. but we are not talking that many guys... Most that said they could not handle it were the very wealthy men.. and for some reason want me for how I look.. not that I am perfect in any way so I am not being stuck up here..  But I am dating professional men that have brains.. who are open minded...
Am I in love... not yet.. am I having fun.. hell yes.. do I like guys.. yep I do.. and I embrace it.

So back from my date and it was romantic and wonderful.. I don't kiss and tell.. but all I can say is that it was very confirming for me.. I am all girl..
I may never find the right guy for me... I am not in a hurry but I have fun.. 

I have a feeling though I wont be single forever..

Love all you girls responses.. we all have different experiences. I wish us all the best of luck
Keri

[Cindy]

 

Hey girls, lets not get carried away and start being negative.

Keri posted about a nice date with a cute guy.

There is no reason to get all negative!

Guys are guys, some like transgender women, some don't. Some want to know, some don't. From your avatars you are all lovely attractive women so there is no reason to put yourselves down.

Keri have a great date - hope it ends up - lovingly 

(within your boundaries of course!!)

[Harley Quinn]

Keri, congratulations on your date!

[Lyndsey]

Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free.  I was nice enough to show them what a Golden Ticket looked like.  Only one guy is going for the ticket.  I tweeted about it: https://twitter.com/AnneEdwardz/status/675384774991605762

Good luck, have fun and be safe!
Anne

Hi Anne
I have been very lucky I have met a strait man and he knows all about me as I told him after the first date. That was in August and we have been seeing a lot of each other. He treats so good like a lady should be treated. He has taken me to met his whole family and all his friends and it has been so nice. I have no idea why I have been so lucky but this is wonderful and I don't want to loose it. I have dated for a lot of times and most of the time when you tell them you are trans they want to run or just use you for you know what. Please be careful and stay in a public place till you know when it is safe. Good luck.

Hugs
Lyndsey

[Angélique LaCava]

Hi Anne
I have been very lucky I have met a strait man and he knows all about me as I told him after the first date. That was in August and we have been seeing a lot of each other. He treats so good like a lady should be treated. He has taken me to met his whole family and all his friends and it has been so nice. I have no idea why I have been so lucky but this is wonderful and I don't want to loose it. I have dated for a lot of times and most of the time when you tell them you are trans they want to run or just use you for you know what. Please be careful and stay in a public place till you know when it is safe. Good luck.

Hugs
Lyndsey

after the date? I tell guys the sec they hit on me because I don't want to waste my time.

[Lyndsey]

Hi Anne

I have to say that I do that too!! It is not worth it to keep it hidden that is how we could get killed. If they still want us then good other wise See you later. And I'm not a one night stand. even If they hit on me it will be hard for them to get to were they want to go. I'm certainly not a whore.

Lyndsey

[Dayta]

Ashey

So back from my date and it was romantic and wonderful.

Glad you enjoyed it!  I'm trying to ignore the part earlier when you said you were 56, you look gorgeous.  Best of luck and keep having fun! 

[kittenpower]

I have a feeling though I wont be single forever..

I only dated 3 guys before I met my husband. Best wishes and have fun.

[Angélique LaCava]

I only dated 3 guys before I met my husband. Best wishes and have fun.

how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.

[kittenpower]

how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.

I don't have an answer for you, but I didn't do online dating.

[JLT1]

Way to go Keri.  We did this to have a life. Its good.

Hugs

Jen

[Laura_7]

how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.

Well you seem to have a sexy aura 

You might say you are looking for a long term relationship... also online...


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