Wanting a female body but socially remain in your male position , familiar ?

[MtFGenderQueer]

Are there any other girls who experience the same?

I was born a boy but I feel female. This makes me M2F obviously . I am bisexual , however I want to live my life as a butch lesbian .

My body is not matching my mind in the slightest .
However socially I don't suffer that much .
Of course I dream about romance and such in a feminin way but I mean politically , career wise ,... I am ok with being treated male . When I'm with male friends I want them to treat me as female however .

Long story short : I want a female body but a male position in life . I identify as a butch woman .

Are there any girls who feel the same?
Also when I have days that I feel myself male I'm very depressed because of it . On the days that I feel myself to be completely female I'm relaxed and at ease .

[Maybebaby56]

I don't think that is so unusual. I view my social and professional personas differently.   

I think the majority of the cisgender female population would like a female body but a male position in life, lol!  Or at least get equal pay for equal work. That's why it's called male privilege.

I have had more than one lady tell me "be careful what you wish for" when they learn I am transgender and want to assume a female identity.  Professionally,  I have had a lifetime of male privilege, and at age 58 my career is winding down, so I am less socially invested in my job than most men are. 

But I am not my job - one of the benefits, IMO, of being comfortable with having more feminine values - and I absolutely prefer social transactions as a woman.  I should point out I do not have nearly as much body dysphoria since starting HRT, so that is not an issue for me. As you observed, it is simply more relaxing and comfortable to think and act as a female.  I think where we differ is you want to retain a more aggressive, dominant male demeanor as a female even in a social setting.  And that's fine.  There are plenty of cis-women who no doubt enjoy that role.

With kindness,

Terri

 

[Deborah]

I'm conflicted on this.  I think part of that might simply be fear of losing my job.  So maybe I'm subconsciously rationalizing.  Also, in the profession I work men and women are pretty much exactly the same so I have a hard time seeing how things would be different.

Another factor is that HRT, at this point at least, has resolved most of my dysphoria.  So I feel absolutely no drive to put on a dress and makeup and go to town.  On the other hand I have grown my hair and more or less dress androgynously and am happy when called ma'am in public which is happening more and more frequently.

So, at this point I am simply confused.  LOL


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[Lara1969]

I am a woman and live as a woman.

It is still easier as male in the job but I could succesfull apply for a new job as managing director of a company. Of course I do not want to work as an unskilled worker with minimum wage. But my main concern is my age not my sex. I did not lost my ability to use my elbows in my job. But many successfull CIS women also know how to use their elbows. So I think success in the  job and transitioning are possible. I know I may be earning less money than I would as male. But I do not care. Not to transition was not an option for me and I am so happy now like I was never before.