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Started by cymoril, January 01, 2016, 01:13:24 AM

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cymoril

Hi everyone!!  I hope everyone is having a wonderful New Year's celebration!!  I am so looking forward to 2016!! Soon after my birthday February 6th, I will have my mammoplasty!!  Double yeahs!!  Oh, and in less than 3 weeks, i'll be back in school-- getting an associate's degree in LGBT studies.  Wow, my future sounds bright...  There is one snag-- I have very few friends here in San Francisco.  I've been here since 2010.  In 2012,  I entered the skilled nursing facility called Laguna Honda.  I weighed less than 90lbs.  and was eventually diagnosed with a very rare disease called Avascular Necrosis-- a progressive, degenerate bone disease that, left untreated, leads to bone death.  And it's very painful.  I spent 2 1/3 years at Laguna.  Since I've gotten out, I've tried to make friends.  To cut to the chase, I will be spending New Years alone.  I do not feel welcomed in the trans community here in San Francisco.  In fact, I feel ostracized.  Am I Asking so much?  And ya know something else?  I used to walk.  I used to walk until 2012.  Now I get around in a motorized electric chair?  Is it too much to ask for friends?
Don't really know what to write here...  So I'll just write a little about myself.  For conciseness, I am a 48 y/o pre-op transsexual who's in a wheelchair.  I'm wheelchair bound due to AVN(avascular necrosis) which took three and a half inches from my right femur and I acquired due to HIV.  I got infected by the first man I was ever with.  So, after spending 40+ years in Texas and getting three felonies, I decided to move to San Francisco.
  I got here in 2010 and continued to drug myself until something happened...  I don't remember exactly what happened, but I do know I did something to ease my pain, which didn't help and I ended up in the ER.  After that, mind you I could still walk, barely, I was diagnosed with avascular necrosis.  Immediately I was sent to a hospital in really bad shape.  I was addicted to a copious amount of drugs and weighed less than 90lbs.  I was near death.  I spent two and a half years in hospital, quit drugs, got my own place and am doing quite well.
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AnonyMs

Its not right. I wish I could say something more to help you, but I'd like you to know I read your post.
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Laura_7

*hugs*

Well many people connect over social media these days...
I'd say just keep to positive people...

try to be abit outgoing, and positive.. people usually like to be with people where its a joy to be around...
the right mixture does it, not being a doormat, not being too demanding but not being too clingy either...

keep on keeping on...
and maybe you will like a few people from your new school...


many *hugs*
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