Titles

[NickSister]

I've recently had a number of battles over titles.

I was getting annoyed with travel requests at work (domestic flights). I keep saying I don't want a title recorded and they keep putting a Mr in front of my name. I recently asked them why they keep doing this and whether they could do Mx instead. I said I found Mr offensive and their continuous insistence of recording me as Mr. I got a pretty rude response. I was notified that the title was a require field in their booking systems and that Mx was not included, which is fair enough but they did not have to be so rude about it. I think from now on to compromise I will ask to be Ms, as my wife is Mrs. I would prefer this to being called Mr. My money is on they still put Mr...

Also at work my gender is recorded as male. Lately this has really annoyed as I know now that I am definitely not male. I asked HR to change it to Androgyne, Mixed or leave it blank because I am transgendered. I actually got a really good, positive, response. They have said they will look into it as they will need to change their computer systems to accommodate this change and they need to investigate the ramifications. I'm looking forward to the day I open up my on-line records and see myself recorded as Androgyne. Hopefully they can manage it.

Any other androgynes have battles with titles or recording gender? I actually prefer to have no title, but if I was to have one I would go for Mx then Ms in that order.

[Kaimialana]

Its amazing to me that you got such a good response.

[no_id]

Don't take this literally...
You have quite a set of balls for going through the lasting gap of title lapse of reason.
... It's meant to be figurative

I am in favour of no titles at all. Or we should all be Doctors.

[Seshatneferw]

Well, yes, that was one of the nicer side effects of getting a Ph.D. 

  Nfr

[Kaimialana]

I could go for Dr. 

[NickSister]

I quite like Professor...

I've always toyed with the idea of going over the top:

Lord, Mistress Queen of the Sacred Fire, Master and Servant of the Divine Ice, Prince Marshell of the 4th Transgender, Princess of Pleasure, The Mightly and Humble Androgyne NickSister 

...pity they only give you a little space to write in though..   

One day I'll hire someone to announce me as I walk into a room.

[Alison]

Can I be called <b> The </b>

The Alison?

like.... The Donald?

I mean... that just excretes cool...

[no_id]

I quite like Professor...

I've always toyed with the idea of going over the top:

Lord, Mistress Queen of the Sacred Fire, Master and Servant of the Divine Ice, Prince Marshell of the 4th Transgender, Princess of Pleasure, The Mightly and Humble Androgyne NickSister 

...pity they only give you a little space to write in though..   

One day I'll hire someone to announce me as I walk into a room.

One way or the other I always end up with Prince of Sinnocence.. Go figure.. 

[RebeccaFog]

I thought of using "Mystery".  Then I could be Mys. Rebis, but then I lost interest.

     I like the THE idea.  We don't need a title, but when someone wants to address us with severe respect or to show us that the topic is important, you can't beat THE.



The Rebis

[NickSister]

Just want to add that I actually don't mind being called Mr Nick. Not sure why this is . It does contradict my hate for being refered to as a Mr. Oh well, it's my name and I can wear it like I want too 

[emmi/andy]

I've been having the same sort of issue. I want the people at my university to remove the "Ms" from my name, it irritates me so much. I would prefer no title at all, but I don't think they would go for that. I finally got them to remove my middle initial, but the lady gave me trouble, and that wasn't even important.

How do you pronounce "Mx"? I've seen it written but never heard it said.

[NickSister]

It is basically short for Mix- as in mixed gender. This is also how it is pronounced.

[emmi/andy]

Thanks. That does make sense.

Hm. I think if I had my way I would be known as Mx Emily Christopher Lastname. Of course I would need a legal name change for that, which is a whole other story. My parents might also be a little miffed, but I think having a feminine first name and a masculine middle name helps show my gender better than an androgynous first name.

[NickSister]

Thanks. That does make sense.

Hm. I think if I had my way I would be known as Mx Emily Christopher Lastname. Of course I would need a legal name change for that, which is a whole other story. My parents might also be a little miffed, but I think having a feminine first name and a masculine middle name helps show my gender better than an androgynous first name.

Yeah, I agree. If you just have one androgynous name then people will naturally attribute male or female to you. Having both would stop them in their tracks. You could have a hyphenated first name
- as in Emily-Chris.

I could be The Nicole-Nic, has a nice ring to it.   

What do you think The Mystery Rebis-Rebis?

[RebeccaFog]

Thanks. That does make sense.

Hm. I think if I had my way I would be known as Mx Emily Christopher Lastname. Of course I would need a legal name change for that, which is a whole other story. My parents might also be a little miffed, but I think having a feminine first name and a masculine middle name helps show my gender better than an androgynous first name.

Yeah, I agree. If you just have one androgynous name then people will naturally attribute male or female to you. Having both would stop them in their tracks. You could have a hyphenated first name
- as in Emily-Chris.

I could be The Nicole-Nic, has a nice ring to it.   

What do you think The Mystery Rebis-Rebis?

Sounds sensible.  If I went with female first/male middle then I'd be The Rebecca-Michael (micheal? oh poo, I can't spell my own middle name  )
         If I use Rebis, people will just think of me as male even though it is supposed to be a nongendered name.


The Rebecca-Micheal  &  Mys. Rebis-Rebis  &  Mx. Rebis


P.S.

   Hey Mx Emily Christopher,

      If you don't miff your parents off, then what's the point of being born! 

[Alison]

I dunno... two first names remind me of things like "Billy Bob"  "Mary Jo" "Bobby Ray" "Bobby Sue" etc...

But thats just me... 

Now names like Blair, Avery, Cameron, Harley, Jaime etc....  I don't automatically associate gender with any of those names...

[Shana A]

mx zythyra works OK for me... I could also deal with "The Z", spoken in a Lord Buckley voice as in "The Nazz"   

I absolutely hate being called mr or sir.... these could be done away with permanently in society and I would shed no tears.

Z

[Kaimialana]

My name is actually an joining of two Hawaiian names, Kaimi, a traditionally male name which means "seeker", and Alana, a traditionally female name which means "awakening" or "offering". Though they may be used traditionally for kaane and wahine, they don't actually have gender.

[Kendall]

Just dont call me It, Thing, or Creature.

Like Z I also hate Mr and Sir, but also for me I dont like Mam and Miss.

Titles to me, are gender expressions like appearance, gender roles, symbols, colors, movement, names, and gender roles.

KK

[NickSister]

My name is actually an joining of two Hawaiian names, Kaimi, a traditionally male name which means "seeker", and Alana, a traditionally female name which means "awakening" or "offering". Though they may be used traditionally for kaane and wahine, they don't actually have gender.

I thought it sounded very pacific. In New Zealand Maori Kai means food..
That would make you "food offering".. a tasty treat in anyones books.