I have been on here with my journey a couple of times and you know my story.
She applied for divorce on Tuesday and I was sort of shocked bud glad something happened instead of the constant threats that drove me insane and pushed me into deep depression and over the edge. I think I caught her bluff and she realized Oh gosh I can't pull back now otherwise I am going to look weak.
I spoke to my therapist and she told me she was just waiting for the day when I stop putting my wife on a trone and see that she is not an angel. She said if she told me that I was being emotionally abused before I would defend my wife. So she kept it secret until I came to the realization.
Then she opened up pandoras box of her assessment of my situation. So much is making sense now I can see it every day. I can cope with the crap she is giving me and I am sort of at peace with reality. I still try negotiating with her for meeting her half way but to no avail she is just who she is. She wants her way and tantrums if she can't get it. I know some people have ideas of how life must go but to life to strict ideals really no husband can life up to the standard of husbandry she want not even Ken of barby.
I left my well paying job to try and give her more money because I was not making enough. I was the example of the perfect husband I really was. I tried my best and once I leveled up the next stage and check points started. I was so imasculated by her at the end and for a person struggling with gd there whole life this is a resepy for disaster.
The problem is she may not change her emotional abusive ways. If I am not there then my child is going to become her next victum. Like she will yell at my child and scream and then turn around and tell me look what you made me do? Really I made you do that? She can't take responsibility for anything. Her cousin says it was like this there whole life. She can't even take responsibility for the divorce she is telling me I made her do it then I told her then I tell you to stop it and lets get you help and help for our marriage.
When I tell her this she is telling me I won't control her then I say to her but really you just told me I made you divorce me. There is just no winning she switches so fast between stories and excuses. I told her I think she might be bipolar she is going to ask her therapist to test her. I know her she is just going to come back and say nothing is wrong.
So is this divorce really because I am transgender or does it look like some sort of underlying mental disorder and abusive controlling wife that is in a power struggle?
All I know that getting divorced sucks it hurts it feels like death of someone you loved.
on This may be how people with transgender family members feels like when the person transitions.
I don't know I will continue my transition once I am divorced. For now it is only trying to life each day and find happiness in something and myself.
