Most people still call me my male name and use guy pronouns on me even tho I've been out for awhile now and almost always now presenting female round em. My brother and sister in law (and her family) in particular do it all the time. It's bothering me a whole lot more of late cuz of nephew is getting to the age where he is trying to start to talk and I don't want him calling me uncle xxxxxxxxxxxx you know?
I'm at the point now that I'm just sick of it, can't stand it anymore. Its not in my nature to be assertive like this, telling people what to do or being up front about things like this and I feel really uncomfortable doing so, but to me it's gotten to the point where I kinda don't care anymore bout being nice and all. Next time I see em I'm gonna tell em stop it, I mean, they know my name (well most, will tell those who don't next time see them too), they know I'm trans and it's not a phase or something, they say they're supportive, time to put up of shut up, or else. I understand it will happen from time to time but if they refuse or if it happens frequently after some time has passed to get used to it, my or else will come into play; not coming around anymore.
I assumed that when I came out and started presenting that they would change automatically, that's sadly not the case with me.
There just comes a time where you have to stand up for yourself; say I'm a man (in your case), this is my name, stop calling me my old name, girl, she, all that or else you may just have to accept it and get used to it because in my experience, it won't change unless you make it change.
Hope this helps.
