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Started by Dee Marshall, January 25, 2016, 08:16:03 AM

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My dieting has collapsed, and I don't know why. I just eat and eat and can't seem to stop myself. I wake up every morning thinking today I'm getting back on track, then nope! Something goes off. Yesterday it was needing to pick up my dad's car for him, which happened to be parked by Huddle House in a sales lot. (Huddle House is a waffle house esque diner chain, I know not everywhere has them.) Well, I had a really great coupon so I thought great, I'll grab a cheap meal. The problem then was I ordered my cheap meal (a lean burger with a small amount of fries, not health food but not horrible), then also ordered some limited edition oreo pancakes they have. That are 1000 calories. And weren't even very good. But I ate them anyway. This morning it was my step brother asking me if I wanted to order pizza. I was going to eat a 250 calorie frozen dinner, but the pizza was just too tempting and I broke down and ordered it. Annnnnnnnnnnnd then ate the whole thing. So that was 2000 calories instead of 250. And its barely past noon.

I want to just cry, I am so down on myself for not keeping up with the diet. Losing a good bit of weight by summer means a lot to me, but I just can't seem to get myself back on track no matter how motivated I am.
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An Open Letter to anyone suffering from anxiety, particularly those afraid to make your first post or continue posting!

8/30/17 - First Therapy! The road begins in earnest.
10/20/17 - First coming out (to my father)!
12/16/17 - BEGAN HRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
5/21/18 - FIRST DAY OUT AS ME!!!!!!!!!
6/08/18 - 2,250 Hair Grafts
6/23/18 - FIRST PRIDE!
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9/08/18 - I'M IN LOVE!!!!
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Sarah_P

Quote from: Roll on March 02, 2018, 11:20:27 AM
My dieting has collapsed, and I don't know why. I just eat and eat and can't seem to stop myself. I wake up every morning thinking today I'm getting back on track, then nope! Something goes off. Yesterday it was needing to pick up my dad's car for him, which happened to be parked by Huddle House in a sales lot. (Huddle House is a waffle house esque diner chain, I know not everywhere has them.) Well, I had a really great coupon so I thought great, I'll grab a cheap meal. The problem then was I ordered my cheap meal (a lean burger with a small amount of fries, not health food but not horrible), then also ordered some limited edition oreo pancakes they have. That are 1000 calories. And weren't even very good. But I ate them anyway. This morning it was my step brother asking me if I wanted to order pizza. I was going to eat a 250 calorie frozen dinner, but the pizza was just too tempting and I broke down and ordered it. Annnnnnnnnnnnd then ate the whole thing. So that was 2000 calories instead of 250. And its barely past noon.

I want to just cry, I am so down on myself for not keeping up with the diet. Losing a good bit of weight by summer means a lot to me, but I just can't seem to get myself back on track no matter how motivated I am.

Dieting is really hard. Being hungry all the time is one of the most difficult things to get used to. Yesterday I dropped by Sonic at lunch time to grab a limeade, since it was happy hour. I ended up getting a rt 44 size one, along with a burger, tots, and an oreo cheesecake shake.  :eusa_doh:

It's hard enough driving by some place that sounds really good, but friends and family are seriously the worst when you're dieting. They'll always tempt you with wonderfully delicious foods that are jam-packed with calories. The woman I live with is always making some extravagant meal, including a large portion for me. I've stopped trying to do my own meals (I feel bad about wasted food, and if I don't eat it, she'll toss it). I do keep some fairly low-calorie frozen meals around for the rare days when she's too tired to cook anything, though.
I'd suggest telling people that you're dieting, and ask them not to tempt you with things like pizza. I know it doesn't always work, but it may at least cut down on the temptations.
I wonder if I could make a device linked to my phone's GPS that would shock me anytime I tried to pull into a fat-food place (that was a typo, but I chose to keep it  :D ).
--Sarah P

There's a world out there, just waiting
If you only let go what's inside
Live every moment, give it your all, enjoy the ride
- Stan Bush, The Journey



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Roll

Quote from: Sarah_P on March 02, 2018, 12:34:23 PM
Dieting is really hard. Being hungry all the time is one of the most difficult things to get used to. Yesterday I dropped by Sonic at lunch time to grab a limeade, since it was happy hour. I ended up getting a rt 44 size one, along with a burger, tots, and an oreo cheesecake shake.  :eusa_doh:

It's hard enough driving by some place that sounds really good, but friends and family are seriously the worst when you're dieting. They'll always tempt you with wonderfully delicious foods that are jam-packed with calories. The woman I live with is always making some extravagant meal, including a large portion for me. I've stopped trying to do my own meals (I feel bad about wasted food, and if I don't eat it, she'll toss it). I do keep some fairly low-calorie frozen meals around for the rare days when she's too tired to cook anything, though.
I'd suggest telling people that you're dieting, and ask them not to tempt you with things like pizza. I know it doesn't always work, but it may at least cut down on the temptations.
I wonder if I could make a device linked to my phone's GPS that would shock me anytime I tried to pull into a fat-food place (that was a typo, but I chose to keep it  :D ).

Part of the problem is that I'm surrounded by enablers who don't even have a clue what they are doing while attempting to be nice, so its not even like I can yell at them or hate them for it (plus its my own problem to begin with). If I'm only eating stuff I buy, its pretty healthy. Sure, I'll splurge at the store and get a snack I shouldn't, but that's gone in a day or two. But for example, my step mother showed up for my birthday last week with two cakes. TWO CAKES. For 5 people! Plus ice cream! And then my sister trying to be sweet and make up for a disaster during Christmas, got me a big thing of holiday peanut butter cups and oreo candy bars (which are the same density of calories as a stick of butter). And then I also got one of those monthly import snack boxes. That... was too much candy and cake. And I ate it all. See, sweet and thoughtful, but really terrible for dieting. :/ My sister and dad can eat anything and not put on weight so all they do is keep junk food around without a second thought, my step mother is tiny but she will just feed everyone else until they die(over buys desserts for parties, etc.), and my step brother has a severe weight problem with not a single care to change it. So it's not a great environment in which to diet at all, particularly when your major issue is just willpower to begin with. If food is put in front of me (including just on a menu), I eat it, simple as that. If it's not, I don't think much about it and go through the day fine without craving it except the occasional pizza.
~ Ellie
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I ALWAYS WELCOME PMs!
(I made the s lowercase so it didn't look as much like PMS... ;D)

An Open Letter to anyone suffering from anxiety, particularly those afraid to make your first post or continue posting!

8/30/17 - First Therapy! The road begins in earnest.
10/20/17 - First coming out (to my father)!
12/16/17 - BEGAN HRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
5/21/18 - FIRST DAY OUT AS ME!!!!!!!!!
6/08/18 - 2,250 Hair Grafts
6/23/18 - FIRST PRIDE!
8/06/18 - 100%, completely out!
9/08/18 - I'M IN LOVE!!!!
2/27/19 - Name Change!

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natalie.ashlyne

Quote from: Roll on March 02, 2018, 01:02:55 PM
Part of the problem is that I'm surrounded by enablers who don't even have a clue what they are doing while attempting to be nice, so its not even like I can yell at them or hate them for it (plus its my own problem to begin with). If I'm only eating stuff I buy, its pretty healthy. Sure, I'll splurge at the store and get a snack I shouldn't, but that's gone in a day or two. But for example, my step mother showed up for my birthday last week with two cakes. TWO CAKES. For 5 people! Plus ice cream! And then my sister trying to be sweet and make up for a disaster during Christmas, got me a big thing of holiday peanut butter cups and oreo candy bars (which are the same density of calories as a stick of butter). And then I also got one of those monthly import snack boxes. That... was too much candy and cake. And I ate it all. See, sweet and thoughtful, but really terrible for dieting. :/ My sister and dad can eat anything and not put on weight so all they do is keep junk food around without a second thought, my step mother is tiny but she will just feed everyone else until they die(over buys desserts for parties, etc.), and my step brother has a severe weight problem with not a single care to change it. So it's not a great environment in which to diet at all, particularly when your major issue is just willpower to begin with. If food is put in front of me (including just on a menu), I eat it, simple as that. If it's not, I don't think much about it and go through the day fine without craving it except the occasional pizza.

I totally understand what you are saying one of the girls I work with she can eat anything and everything she eats a whole bag of chips every night and weighs 120 pounds and is 5'8 I am 5'7 165 pounds I dream to be her weight. See we take turns and cook for each she can eat 4 times what I can. I am at the point where it seems that I look at food and I gain weight. I have been trying to loose weight to. She always says well one will not hurt you so I know about enabling it is hard but even if you are just loosing a pound a week that is still great.  I am wishing you the best and hope you can loose the weight you want.
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MollyPants

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 02, 2018, 01:25:59 PM
I totally understand what you are saying one of the girls I work with she can eat anything and everything she eats a whole bag of chips every night and weighs 120 pounds and is 5'8 I am 5'7 165 pounds I dream to be her weight. See we take turns and cook for each she can eat 4 times what I can. I am at the point where it seems that I look at food and I gain weight. I have been trying to loose weight to. She always says well one will not hurt you so I know about enabling it is hard but even if you are just loosing a pound a week that is still great.  I am wishing you the best and hope you can loose the weight you want.
My partner is like that. She can eat the same amount as me despite being literally half my size and it's an achievement of she puts on weight. Consequently she doesn't have any need to be careful with what she eats and dieting is like impossible if you have to cook for two every night :(

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natalie.ashlyne

Well I saw my aunts and uncles on my fathers side today for the first time in 2 years. What I thought could be a good experience turned out that. I have one aunt that will still talk to me and love me and the rest can go shove it. 10 more people are now out of my life we were never close so it does not hurt as much.
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meatwagon

extremely rude customer today at work.  I was putting up a cart, he called out my name (it's on the name tag), and when I looked up, he said "you ain't no Kenny, you know you a girl.  you're pretty," and then he walked out.  just bafflingly uncalled for on so many levels i don't even know where to start.

also, having a fever because the pharmacy can't get their stuff together and get me my sinus meds already.
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ChrissyRyan

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 02, 2018, 03:45:43 PM
Well I saw my aunts and uncles on my fathers side today for the first time in 2 years. What I thought could be a good experience turned out that. I have one aunt that will still talk to me and love me and the rest can go shove it. 10 more people are now out of my life we were never close so it does not hurt as much.


I am glad you have that nice aunt.

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.
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Laurel D

Quote from: meatwagon on March 02, 2018, 07:12:24 PM
extremely rude customer today at work.  I was putting up a cart, he called out my name (it's on the name tag), and when I looked up, he said "you ain't no Kenny, you know you a girl.  you're pretty," and then he walked out.  just bafflingly uncalled for on so many levels i don't even know where to start.

also, having a fever because the pharmacy can't get their stuff together and get me my sinus meds already.
Sometimes people just suck. I get that every once in awhile too at work. Sometimes people never out grow the school yard bully routine.  Just don't acknowledge them anymore than your job requires you too. If their mission is to invalidate who you are, then they failed big time, because they don't get to decide who you are.

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Laurel D

Quote from: Cassi on March 01, 2018, 10:54:19 PM
You seriously need to contact your local newspaper or news station.  That's BS and you are victims.
Still trying to figure out the right person to complain to. I'm not one that likes to get confrontational.( I am actually afraid of both being confrontational and being in confrontations if that makes any sense.) But I don't want to just give away $200 either.

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Laurel D

Quote from: Sno on March 02, 2018, 03:54:30 AM
Cassi,

You're so right, $200 coffee in a plastic cup... crime of the century.

Ids98498, that's terrible hon, really awful :(

Rowan
When they asked me if I wanted another cup of coffee, I said heck yes. For that money I should have took the coffee maker too . ( Just kidding. )

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Cassi

Quote from: lds98498 on March 02, 2018, 08:52:18 PM
Still trying to figure out the right person to complain to. I'm not one that likes to get confrontational.( I am actually afraid of both being confrontational and being in confrontations if that makes any sense.) But I don't want to just give away $200 either.

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Call the City Desk at your local newspaper.  Explain your story and I'm sure they connect you with someone and try your local news station.  Nothing shakes a questionable tax preparer than coming under the microscope of media.  You could also contact the Internal Revenue Service and report their practice.
HRT since 1/04/2018
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AnnMarie2017

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 02, 2018, 01:25:59 PM
I totally understand what you are saying one of the girls I work with she can eat anything and everything she eats a whole bag of chips every night and weighs 120 pounds and is 5'8

Don't you just want to tie her down and drip water on her forehead with an eyedropper for like, oh, two weeks, until she goes stark raving insane?

I'm replying to the thread, not to your post in particular; but I had to say that, and also that your avatar is stunning.

I work part-time at an all-night convenience store that sells pizza and subs on the side. My job is night shift in the deli section. I'm by myself all night, and I've got so much to get done that every little interruption turns my night upside-down. It's very stressful. Well, the person who relieves me is very exacting. She's very good at her job, knows my job just as well, is in good with the boss ... and she's not happy with me, because I don't perform to her satisfaction. Now, I know I'm relatively new. I started in November, and I only work two days a week. Maybe she's not being unfair; I don't know. But I'm one of those people for whom a kind word is very motivating, and lack of a kind word is devastating. I've always been more motivated by praise than anything else. Last night was hell -- well, to be honest, most nights are no picnic -- and, as usual, when my relief came in she treated me like you-know-what.

I was stuck there, with her, for another hour to an hour-and-a-half, because I still had duties to perform. I tried to speak with her pleasantly when she came in, and she barely acknowledged me. I just knew she hated me, hated following me, etc. I continued doing what I had to do, and I was on the verge of tears (estrogen; this has been happening a lot lately). Yes, it was validating; but, on the other hand, I was ready to quit my job over this.

I was miserable. Then, the assistant manager on duty came up to me and we talked. I told him how I felt, and he gave me some important feedback and information. It was nice.

Is this what men do? Take charge and manage? If so, how comforting. I like being made to feel safe, in my emotional upheaval. Truth is, I always have -- no surprise there (d-uh).

Anyway ... a rough day, with a few silver linings.
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Cassi

Kind of mixed feelings.  Earlier today I decided to stop by the local VFW just to get out of the apartment without going and blowing money at a casino.

Anyway, as I was brushing my hair (comb no good anymore), I looked at myself and realized that face was really changing.  Kinda awkward, male-female but I had my glasses and baseball cap so I went.  Last time I had a drink that contained alcohol was a couple of beers on Thanksgiving.  Anyway, I went and had two beers.  I didn't know anyone so it's an uneventful event.
HRT since 1/04/2018
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natalie.ashlyne

Quote from: AnnMarie2017 on March 03, 2018, 10:24:56 AM
Don't you just want to tie her down and drip water on her forehead with an eyedropper for like, oh, two weeks, until she goes stark raving insane?

I'm replying to the thread, not to your post in particular; but I had to say that, and also that your avatar is stunning.

I work part-time at an all-night convenience store that sells pizza and subs on the side. My job is night shift in the deli section. I'm by myself all night, and I've got so much to get done that every little interruption turns my night upside-down. It's very stressful. Well, the person who relieves me is very exacting. She's very good at her job, knows my job just as well, is in good with the boss ... and she's not happy with me, because I don't perform to her satisfaction. Now, I know I'm relatively new. I started in November, and I only work two days a week. Maybe she's not being unfair; I don't know. But I'm one of those people for whom a kind word is very motivating, and lack of a kind word is devastating. I've always been more motivated by praise than anything else. Last night was hell -- well, to be honest, most nights are no picnic -- and, as usual, when my relief came in she treated me like you-know-what.

I was stuck there, with her, for another hour to an hour-and-a-half, because I still had duties to perform. I tried to speak with her pleasantly when she came in, and she barely acknowledged me. I just knew she hated me, hated following me, etc. I continued doing what I had to do, and I was on the verge of tears (estrogen; this has been happening a lot lately). Yes, it was validating; but, on the other hand, I was ready to quit my job over this.

I was miserable. Then, the assistant manager on duty came up to me and we talked. I told him how I felt, and he gave me some important feedback and information. It was nice.

Is this what men do? Take charge and manage? If so, how comforting. I like being made to feel safe, in my emotional upheaval. Truth is, I always have -- no surprise there (d-uh).

Anyway ... a rough day, with a few silver linings.

Hi AnnMarie2017 , I want to say thank you, you made me smile. Is there a head manager there? Do you live in a place that has harassment and bulling laws, here in Ontario it is part of our Health and Safety act. You can look into the laws where you live and advise you mangers.
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AnnMarie2017

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 03, 2018, 07:23:40 PM
Is there a head manager there? Do you live in a place that has harassment and bulling laws, here in Ontario it is part of our Health and Safety act. You can look into the laws where you live and advise you mangers.

There are protections in place; but, although I think this kind of thing does qualify as bullying, it's passive rather than aggressive. She's not actively trying to make my job more unpleasant; she just isn't going out of her way to hide the way she feels. Too, she is very well thought-of by the powers-that-be, and, from what I can gather, for good reason. A good worker who knows her job. In addition, this is the first place I worked as me; when I got hired, even before my name changed, I came out as trans and asked to go under my real name, and they were very accommodating. So, I really don't want to rock the boat here. Maybe if I had been here longer, I might be more vocal; but I don't want to be seen as a problem, regardless of my rights. This place is hard on everyone, including the managers. Very stressful.

I'm just glad the assistant manager on duty talked with me today. He was one of the first to make an effort to gender me correctly and treat me like a girl.  :) It was very comforting.
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AnnMarie2017

I came here to post this, and discovered I've posted more than once in this topic over the last several days. I feel ... self-involved, and self-indulgent. Do yourself a favor and just skip over this post; I just needed to vent. I'll try not to do it again for awhile.

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I'm glad this topic is here. Even if no one reads this, it's good to have some place to express it.

Today started out wonderfully well; I was in the best mood I've been in for a long time. Then, when I wanted to put on my eye makeup, the applicator was gone. It's been downhill ever since.

I know my apartment is a disaster area. What with working seven days a week and dealing with the aftermath of my name change, when am I going to find the time to clean? Yesterday – you won't believe this. I have two Visa cards with a specific, major bank. Although the same bank manages both accounts, I sent full documentation for each account separately. There were no wrinkles; my name was changed on both accounts and I have received my new credit cards. It's a major bank, after all.

Then I went to the website to pay my bill – and it deadnamed me. I called the bank. The regular customer service people were helpless; they transferred me to their computer people. Their computer people told me I would have to take proof of my name change into my local branch in order to get my name changed on the website. Now, I have had a credit card with this bank for nearly 10 years, and not once have I seen the inside of a branch. The nearest branch of this particular bank, major though it is, is more than 100 miles from me and in a different state. I have already demonstrated the legitimacy of my name change to this company; are you telling me that the left hand can't talk to the right hand?

When I said something like this to the computer person, I was told there was nothing else they could do. I was transferred back to customer service. When this customer service representative also told me there was no alternative, I asked to speak to a supervisor. When the supervisor got hold of it, things began to change; and, believe me, it was no picnic for her, either. I spent a number of minutes on hold and then came into a three-way conversation in which the supervisor explained matters to a supervisor in the computer section. This second supervisor acknowledged that the problem was theirs, not mine, but told me it was going to take 1-2 days to fix and she would have to refer it to their problem solvers. That's where things ended.

This is the kind of thing I've gone through a number of times now. Apparently, many systems just aren't set up to handle our situation. And each one takes precious time to address. This adventure took nearly an hour.

So, my apartment is a pig sty. Nevertheless, I keep my eye makeup applicators in one place and one place only in my apartment, because they're dirty with makeup: on a paper towel, on top of the microwave in the kitchen. I never put them anywhere else, because I don't want makeup all over the place; I have enough problems keeping the bathroom clean as it is. Today, I went to the kitchen to get the applicator – and it wasn't there. This experience was only a little less disorienting than discovering that the earth really is flat after all. Putting my eye makeup applicator on top of the microwave is almost a natural law, like gravity.

This is the kind of thing that makes you wonder if you're got early-stage Alzheimers. I actually looked in the refrigerator. I was freaking out. I didn't find it, so no eye makeup at work today; and, after wasting time looking for it, in my haste to get out the door I forgot to put on lipstick. And my hair was particularly uncooperative today. All-in-all, today started off brilliantly, then took a sharp nosedive descent into Purgatory. Please, Day; get better.

I stopped on the way to work to get lunch and bought a small bag of M&Ms. I don't know what your experience has been, but since HRT chocolate has become a richer, fuller experience for me. When I was able to take a minute at work, I savored my way through the bag. M&Ms are one of the best readily-available confectionery experiences on the planet; I think I'm going to start carrying a bag in my purse for emergencies – a nice antidote for a meltdown.

Thank you, topic, for giving me a place to post this without feeling like a narcissistic windbag.

So, that was my day. How was yours?
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Cassi

HRT since 1/04/2018
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AnnMarie2017

Quote from: Cassi on March 06, 2018, 12:22:36 AM
Plain or Peanut?

Peanut, every time.

I'm not knocking Plain. They're good, and I once ate some in desperation (no Peanut available). I don't look down on people who prefer them.

But I'm a Peanut girl. Oh, yum.  ;D
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Cassi

Quote from: AnnMarie2017 on March 06, 2018, 12:40:58 AM
Peanut, every time.

I'm not knocking Plain. They're good, and I once ate some in desperation (no Peanut available). I don't look down on people who prefer them.

But I'm a Peanut girl. Oh, yum.  ;D

Personally, I would have said I was a nut girl :)  Actually, I agree.  The peanut ones tend to last longer while you're figgiting the peanut pieces :)
HRT since 1/04/2018
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