I have always insisted that as we transition, we each have to find our own path, do what each of us as individuals need to do to find and fully live as our authentic selves. That includes our sexual orientation. I firmly believe that our sexual orientation is not tightly tied to our gender identity, but is something else that we need to explore and fully determine for ourselves free of cultural, social, and peer demands.
That is, as I made my transition to fully live my life as a woman, that my sexual orientation may not necessarily shift such that I desire to engage in sex with men. That is a cultural stereotype of transgender women. Rather, I beleive that each of us needs to determine for ourselves what our deepest desires drive us toward. As with any change in life, we need to consider why we might want to change. Are we changing to please others, meet a demand of a cultural stereotype, or a peer group? Or is that change something that is needed from within ourselves, something that we need to do to live as our authentic selves?
I have been surprised to get considerable pushback against this. I have been shocked to find that others place meeting cultural stereotypes and peer pressure, a desire to get others to accept oneself, over their own internal feelings.
This makes me unhappy. I've been rejected by other groups because I didn't want to meet their stereotypes. Now I'm seeing that here.