Treated as a female

[Jalynn]

I was reading another thread and I saw somebody post "Looking like a cis girl and being treated as a female are two totally different things". I'm sure I am not the only one but hits me like a dream. I was feeling like I would have to look cis to be treated female. Another part of me also thinks you just have to really really try your best and b patient and that dream can happen. Would somebody elaborate the meaning of the statement "Looking like a cis girl and being treated as a female are two totally different things." a little more? Is there any tell tale signs that you are being treated like a female?

[Ms Grace]

To be honest I don't really know what they are on about with this statement. I will say though that genetic women have a very wide range of physical features, some of which look quite masculine. I've seen genetic women with heavy set brows, I've seen genetic women who are ver tall, or with no breasts, or with huge noses, or big hands/feet, or thin to no hair, or a lot of body hair... today I saw an older woman (possibly of Pacific Islander background, I couldn't tell) who had a freaking beard - I'm not talking a few wisps, it was an honest to god beard with mo. I'm guessing none of those women are not treated as women. People's personal categorisation of what constitutes "looks female" can take in a lot of variation. I'm 6'3" and I have to say I'm amazed that most people accept me as female without even a first look let alone a second look.

[stephaniec]

I think is just has to do with an individuals nature or perspective on life. I'm guessing in fact I know most people I encounter in everyday life especially woman will just about bend over backwards to be polite and helpful. I feel if your putting effort into presenting as female most woman will fo along with that presentation. I went into the CVS  on the block I live on where I've been going to for 20 years and everyone in there knows me from pre transition, I went in there dressed totally female and everyone accepted me as such even though they know me as male. One of the girls even called me darling and asked how I was doing and when I left she said goodbye Miss-----. Obviously they know I was handicapped by my birth , but they treated me as cis.

[suzifrommd]

I was reading another thread and I saw somebody post "Looking like a cis girl and being treated as a female are two totally different things". I'm sure I am not the only one but hits me like a dream. I was feeling like I would have to look cis to be treated female. Another part of me also thinks you just have to really really try your best and b patient and that dream can happen. Would somebody elaborate the meaning of the statement "Looking like a cis girl and being treated as a female are two totally different things." a little more? Is there any tell tale signs that you are being treated like a female?

I might have been the one who said that.

I know many trans women who don't pass. Most are thrilled with their transition. People call them ma'am whereever they go, they shop in the women's section of the store with no one batting an eyelash, they basically live their lives as women. Their best friends are women, they only use the ladies' room and have for many years. In all ways they live as women and all the important people in their lives see them that way.

Does this help?

[Jalynn]

Yes thank you. Has a lot to do with confidence I think. Sure helps.