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How our thoughts and bodies change over time

Started by Brandii, February 06, 2016, 01:02:56 AM

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Brandii

I recall well the feeling of being overwhelmed by so much feminine information all at once. I knew I did not look good on a skirt and top but I tried anyway and eventually learned about matching outfits and accessories. I wish my old friend Kristy could see me in my long dress with spaghetti straps now.

While at the beach about a year ago, I was under the canopy reading by myself. The neighbors daughters checked me out good and I heard one of them ask their mother if I was a boy? I was wearing a short tank top, womens bike shorts, cheap shades and wide hat and had just painted my nails purple. The mother looks around right at me and laughs, slaps the girl lightly on the shoulder, and tells her I most definately was a woman and she should be more polite.

I don't have to try anymore to look feminine-I already do. I must admit to self medicating for a time and have been happy with my results thus far but am looking for a therapist now to start the process.
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Brandii

Funny, the power dropped out when I was trying to post then I got interrupted a little later. When I opened my email there was a response from a gender therapist near here. I'll post back in about that when I have my appointment made.

I also want to say that being feminine is an attitude that I either accept or reject. When I can accept myself, others will too and just leave me alone to be me. Thus finally after so much time worrying that I won't ever pass, even when I do not try I still look like a woman and enjoy being treated that way. For me it just took some time.
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Ms Grace

Self acceptance definitely goes a long way towards making the process of transition a lot smoother. When you accept yourself you at least have one less person against you! :)
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Brandii

Just to clarify something, when I first came out I was self medicating but I had to stop when I stopped working. That was well over a year ago and while it has been a struggle at times I am glad for the things I have learned. I've read how anything worth having is worth struggling to get.

I see girls on the internet who are so cute and seemingly flawless in presentation. But they work hard to be pretty too so I don't feel so bad. If I can do this and feel good about it, anybody else can too if they work at it and learn what works and what does not. In the beginning I was all about being wrapped up in that which does not work for me so I had to eliminate some garbage before I could make progress. Now, I carefully analyze everything about what I want to look like and usually can make it happen.

And one other thing I have noticed about me-I spend alot of time by myself and tend to ramble on sometimes.
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Ms Grace

Quote from: Brandii on February 06, 2016, 03:47:02 PM
In the beginning I was all about being wrapped up in that which does not work for me so I had to eliminate some garbage before I could make progress. Now, I carefully analyze everything about what I want to look like and usually can make it happen.

Yep, that is all a part of the self-acceptance process... turning off the negative "can't do" inner dialogue and realising that it gets you nowhere fast.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Brandii

I saw my new therapist today and am pleased with her manner. She told me straight out that I do look feminine and if transitioning is what I still want to do, she says I already have! That really made me feel good. I see her again next week.
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