I Guess I Am Not Transitioning :/ (Need help and possible advice)

[Phek]

if you're legally old enough to be an adult, there's legally not ->-bleeped-<- anyone can do to interfere with your medical treatments. at that age, the only thing your parents can control you with is if they're paying your bills, but even then thats not a forever problem. i'd find another doc yourself and <not allowed> the haters. i'm also not recommending domestic violence, but man would i have loved to slap the ->-bleeped-<- out of BOTH of my parents growing up. i gave them a few solid "<not allowed> you bro"s, but until i left that toxic situation i couldn't feel better. 4 suicide attempts later, i'm living 3000 miles away from both of them cause they and everyone in that part of the country blows. i couldn't feel better about it.

idk. i intend no insensitivity, and if you're looking for straight up advice, the most concise advice may sound insensitive, but in my experience, what has saved my life is this: <not allowed> people who dont <not allowed> with you. if they wont get away from you, get away from them.

<edit> didn't realize cursing was censored :/ </edit

[greencoloredpencil]

Not to mention your "father" (and yes I think the scare quotes are appropriate since he's not really qualified to be a father if this is how he behaves) taking away your medication is illegal. I know you're not in a position to fight a legal battle with him at the moment, but once you're on your own I'd pursue this against him. Do you think letting him know that you understand what he's done is illegal and can be pursued might make him back down?

[jessilynn]

I am pretty independent. Like I pay my own way. 
He still won't return my meds, but I (well my grandparents) did pick up another bottle, and they said they had a hell of a time doing it because I already had it in my account that I had picked up a supply of 380 (my doc gave me two bottles).

He's pulling the religious crap on me and disrespecting mine in the process.

But honestly I totally didn't realise how much and how quickly the Spironolactone affected me. Like my face this morning was scruffy and felt like sandpaper [emoji22]. I thought that the hormones did all that. My doctor did tell me I might have majorly slowed the process...


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[sparrow]

I don't know why I didn't notice this before, but your "dad" actually stole things from you, and if your door was locked, that's probably break & enter.  That is a criminal offense.  Call the cops, and report the theft.  You won't need to hire a lawyer, the state will pay the prosecutor.  This isn't 100% failsafe, but at the very least, the cops will show up to your door.  Call the cops as soon as possible.  Tonight.  The longer you wait, the harder it is to get a conviction.

Failing that, you can take him to small claims court for the value of your meds and your clothes.

[EmilyRyan]

Oh my goodness that's horrible but I'm glad you're at a safe place and getting things resolved.  I'm 24 and live with my parents and yeah they don't accept me being trans so right now transitioning physically is out of the question until I can figure a way to be on my own without major financial issues.

I hope things get better for ya and stay strong    

[jessilynn]

I ended up taking him to my therapist and she sat down and talked to him. And I think she said something that really shook him up.
"if you don't agree with it that's fine but you have to understand there are things in this world you will never understand. My goal as a general therapist is to rule out and debunk gender dysphoria. Jessilynn has confided in me that she has attempted suicide due to her dysphoria. So unless you actually want to bury your own child I suggest an open line of communication and try to understand"

She wasn't going to do it before I think that got on to him.


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[Ms Grace]

I hope that helps him come to his senses.

[jessilynn]

I hope that helps him come to his senses.

I think it really did. And my therapist... like I found out today shes REALLY good at articulating her words... And can manipulate what she means to say (WITHOUT lying- telling the FULL truth). Yes. I did tell her that I have attempted suicide multiple times... And ended up crying asking "After failed attempts why am I still here"

She relayed that onto him in many more words. She didnt even let them charge me for the session because she knew what was going on. Which is why I LOVE my therapist to no end. She has stuck with me as a friend and an ally every step of the way.