Coping skills or advice?

[Midnightstar]

I get that everyone is different don't get me wrong but i notice a lot of people always speak about transgender related things and iv'e always found that sort of stressful having to focus on one subject (Transgender) or think about my transgender problems that tend to trigger me to think or stress me out or make me sad, more often then not. So i drift in between different forums or sites that speak about topics i'm into, it helps me not feel so focused in on the problems. However it's become this habit to "Avoid" my feelings and has created some foggy emotions so it's probably done some "Good" but also some "Bad" and i guess what i'm trying to say is 1: Do others also find talking about it and avoiding it sometimes helpful?
And the big question is 2: What's a good balance or way to speak about trans problems in life but not trigger myself or end up getting confused because iv'e taken so much time away from everything that is a struggle.
 

[Dee Marshall]

I avoided it for the first 54 years of my life despite hints as to what was going on with me. I avoided it so well that I still don't remember huge swaths of my childhood and I didn't actually know I was trans except for short, disjointed time periods. Short term avoidance, while the pain is fresh is OK. Long term avoidance is unhealthy. Talking about it with people you trust, in small amounts, does help. "Trust", there's the rub.

I get frustrated, too, about how much of my day is taken up with this,. That in itself can be a trigger. About your other triggers? Without knowing what they are, (which I DON'T expect you to tell), it's hard to say. Maybe set a time limit? Or stick to only one topic?