I want to be a mother

[Wild Flower]

Today, I was buying oatmeal, and I went pass the baby food section. And I thought to myself I wanted a baby, the fun of raising a life, and then I brush that aside when I realize without a commited partner its unlikely to happen. I am not in any condition to be a single parent. And it would also be impossible unless I find a TS man willing to become pregnant for us to have a child.

Seems like a pointless endeavor, especially the costs.

Who had a child outside the traditional man-woman coupling?

[Lauren Nicole]

Have you considered adopting? There are many great children out there who need a loving home... I plan to adopt when I meet someone in the future.

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[KayXo]

When one is ready to put aside all their needs and wants and focus solely on a child, devote a big part of their life to them, then one is ready to have a child. Not a second before. A baby, a child is one of the most precious things in this world and one should seriously consider the sacrifices one must make when raising a child. A baby, a son, a daughter is a joy to have but it's important to see the other side of things too.

[herekitten]

I know how you feel; I always wanted to raise a child -- especially coming from a large family.  My exhusband never wanted children so that was that. That divorce was a godsend because it led me to my husband - the love of my life. He had complete custody of his son (6 months old) from a previous marriage. So our marriage came complete with husband, baby and all.  And then I experienced the joys of motherhood (and all the woes). But I would not trade it.  Our son has since gone on to a life of his own with job and college.  I feel fortunate to have been blessed with something which I thought I would never experience. And the experience does not end there, because I'm hoping he gives us a beautiful grandchild at some point.

[Laura_7]

Today, I was buying oatmeal, and I went pass the baby food section. And I thought to myself I wanted a baby, the fun of raising a life, and then I brush that aside when I realize without a commited partner its unlikely to happen. I am not in any condition to be a single parent. And it would also be impossible unless I find a TS man willing to become pregnant for us to have a child.

Seems like a pointless endeavor, especially the costs.

Who had a child outside the traditional man-woman coupling?

Well many transgender people like children...

there might be ways to help children and share some time, to the advantage of both parties...
and by the way there are many grandparents for example who say they are glad when at some point its not their own and they can retire to their own housing...

there might be summer camps for children, or festivities etc ... or some other places where adults donating time and effort are appreciated ...


*hugs*

[Wild Flower]

Have you considered adopting? There are many great children out there who need a loving home... I plan to adopt when I meet someone in the future.

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Possibly. I have to get a better job. There is no way I can afford a child at this point in my life. I prefer my own child, to feel that connection, and to be honest I really dont like kids all that much (being a teacher wouldnt be an ideal job). But its different if the child is my own. I want to see them grow up and have someone that loves me as a mother. I wont force it upon them but i see how having a family is enriching. Now, having a husband would be a goal too, but I doubt its even possible as a gay man (Im a trans woman who hasnt transistion), I been searching for a long time... And I way more success when I say Im trans but not transistioning. I will when I have everything line up, I see too many older trans women to give up my dream, and I dont care to be a pretty young woman anymore. Passable-enough yes, but pretty and young isnt a requirment for me. Plus women dont look beautiful until they hit mid 30s in my opinion.

I reckon I will become a mother in my 40s. Nothing wrong with that though... Life expectancy will give me enough time to see her/him/"whatever terms fits best" become honorable adults.

The maximum age I think i could handle being a newly mother would be 50. I would be like a grandma though and i have a strong relationship with my grandma. I will be young enough get through the tough childraising years before my body gives out.

[DawnOday]

Good news. According to reports they have successfully transplanted a uterus. Maybe in time they can try it on MTF  SRS. IN my opinion that would be the ultimate female trait to have.  I was there for both children's birth and my wife never looked more beautiful.

[noleen111]

I can relate. I have read that trans-woman can also get the desire to reproduce and that make sense, as our medication gives us the same hormones as cis-women.

Lately that desire is strong in me (I am in my late 20's) and partly caused by the fact a close friend of mine is currently pregnant. I am so happy for her, but I am saddened by the fact that I cant give my man a baby one day, i would really love to carry his child. But adoption is a variable option and i will follow that option.

Good news. According to reports they have successfully transplanted a uterus. Maybe in time they can try it on MTF  SRS. IN my opinion that would be the ultimate female trait to have.  I was there for both children's birth and my wife never looked more beautiful.

That is good news... who knows maybe in a decade or so I get one transplanted and I can actually fall pregnant. Ok then I will also menstruate (another female trait). I have been told by cis-women that I am so lucky that I dont get periods as the cramps and bleeding can get very unpleasant.. shame my female roommate she really cramps bad some months, but i am kinda feel i am missing out of a uniquely female experience. 


Reading the article, it said that the uterus will not stay permanently in her. After a year or two she will be artificially inseminated and once she is done having one or two kids they will remove it.

[schwarzwalderkirschtort]

I am too young to be a father, but I know a trans couple who did. They got a sperm donor (they're female and ftm) and the ftm had a baby I think, but then the female had the next, so they had three children in the end. I know a gay couple who just adopted their children and fostered for a while before they did. (I think one of their sons had been a foster child before - I'm not sure)

  I'm going to adopt a child when I come of age, for one because I don't want to pass on my genetic problems, and for another because I want to save a child from a potentially horrible childhood elsewhere, or not being adopted at all... I have a lot to offer, and live in a good country, so I want to share that with a child even if they aren't biologically mine.