Not sure where to start

[Kimicov]

I'm not sure where to begin. I'm 34 amab and I've been recently diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria. I am in therapy and I am taking things slowly. Recently I've done some easy to conceal things to see how I feel and I'm amazed how good I feel with just painted toenails and some shapewear. I'm hoping to get further into this and see where I end up. As of now I am leaning toward Hormone Therapy but I'm not 100% sure. Is this the place to start if I'm looking to talk with people and ask questions on what to expect and share experiences with? Thank you for your time.

[Rachel]

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[Rachel]

Hi Kimicov,

Yes, this is a good place to start. What are your questions?

[Laura_7]

Hello and welcome 

I'd say just take part and ask questions.

you could:
- grow your hair out and keep it in a ponytail in guy mode.
Its possible to say you like the style of lord of the rings.
Also covering forehead and brows with bangs can make for a big change.
- try  a few clothes for women. Second hand stores can be a good source.
- Try some makeup. Some liquid foundation, a lipstick in unobtrusive colours and volumizing mascara might do in the beginning. I'd recommend organic.
- start voice training. There are threads on that.


*hugs*

[Kimicov]

This is great. I was looking for a place I could be me and ask questions without judgment. I guess my main question is, what kind of timetable is normal for figuring out what I want to do next. I've read about people transitioning after a few weeks I've read there are people that never transition. I just started therapy about a month ago and I was told to reach out to support groups. It's just all so new. I spent 34 years living as a male, only to find out all those awkward moments in my life were me telling me I wasn't happy being male. Now I'm married, have children, a job and I have to reevaluate who I am. It's overwhelming some days and I just want to know that it gets better.

[Laura_7]

Here are some materials that might help with self acceptance:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901

There are quite a few people in your position ... there is a significant other section of the forum.
I'd say just keep going, its s step by step process ... just take the next step.


*hugs*

[purplewuggybird]

There is no right or wrong timeline for any gender transition or treatment or feelings. Some of us had therapy for years until transitioning, some of us haven't transitioned. Personally I lived full time girl for 1 year before accessing therapy and hormones, and I am close to getting hormones a year and 2 months after I came out. There is no right or wrong timeline but if you are interested in hormones to see where you fall you need to learn up and talk to your therapist. Many people get on hormones for 2 months, see how they like it, and then do a transition. The world is your oyster, friend


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[HappyMoni]

There are a lot of wonderful people on this site. They can give great advice. Only you know what will be right for you. One of the hard things about being transgender is having to have some patience. It many times takes a long time to figure yourself out then you have to wait to get to where you want to get as far as transition. Don't panic. The more experience you get with your true self the easier it is to find your personal pathway. For me, it has been great to be on this site and talk with people who "get it."
Moni

[amberwaves]

Hi kimicov welcome to Susan's.  This is as definitely a good place to ask questions and share your journey.  There are a lot of very knowledgeable people here.  It is also a good place to read other's stories.  There are bunch of us going through this and this place is very supportive.  There are a couple of us here who are around your age all discovering this and exploring our gender.  I am also 34 married with kids.  I recommend you browse around some of the topics and just kind of soak everything in.  There is no wrong answer for your eventual destination or timeframe.  The trick is to find what works for you.  Hope to see you around.

Amber