Hi! New trans person here

[thereaverofdarkness]

I just discovered this forum and thought it might be a neat place to meet cool people and have some awesome discussions!

Let me introduce myself. As I'm sure most of you are aware (and unfortunately much of the populace is not), there are a wide variety of characteristics to a trans-identifying person. I feel like I'm rather uncommon among trans persons. I am a transgender male. I was born male, I am male by chromosome, but my personality is much more female. Still, I experience no significant gender dysphoria and I dress as male and generally present myself as male. If I didn't tell people, they wouldn't know I was transgendered.

So, hello to all of you! Introduce yourselves, or ask me any question you want! I love being questioned, and I never shy away from any topic. One word of caution: I'm generally oblivious to topic sensitivity--so that means anything you say won't bother me, but just the same, if you talk about a topic that is sensitive to you, I might accidentally say something that bothers you. I apologize in advance, but I just need you to know it may happen.

So...hi! 

[V M]

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[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. You are not really all that common among the transgender as what you describe fits in the Non-binary and we have a fair population on this site. Your description is lacking in the details so I suspect you are somewhere around the cross dressers give or take a little. If so, we have others on the site who feel as you do. I am going to give you a to our WIKI that will help you with the terms and categories that we use on the site. You are free to join in any conversation you wish and if there is anything I can help you with, let me know.

[Kelly Girl]

I just discovered this forum and thought it might be a neat place to meet cool people and have some awesome discussions!

Let me introduce myself. As I'm sure most of you are aware (and unfortunately much of the populace is not), there are a wide variety of characteristics to a trans-identifying person. I feel like I'm rather uncommon among trans persons. I am a transgender male. I was born male, I am male by chromosome, but my personality is much more female. Still, I experience no significant gender dysphoria and I dress as male and generally present myself as male. If I didn't tell people, they wouldn't know I was transgendered.

So, hello to all of you! Introduce yourselves, or ask me any question you want! I love being questioned, and I never shy away from any topic. One word of caution: I'm generally oblivious to topic sensitivity--so that means anything you say won't bother me, but just the same, if you talk about a topic that is sensitive to you, I might accidentally say something that bothers you. I apologize in advance, but I just need you to know it may happen.

So...hi! 

Hi back at ya , and welcome :-)
I have been thinking about your post off and on all day . I wanted to say hi earlier but needed time to digest where you were coming from ?
If I understand what you said correctly , you are an uncommon  type of Transgender ? I wish I knew if you felt TG MTF so I could wrap my head around this easier , but you left that part out , or maybe on purpose ?
From what your saying and correct me if I'm wrong please because you said we can ask questions , is your a non binary transgender ? Which is kind of an oxymoron really . But don't consider yourself either male or female but stear towards male but your personality is female more ?
Would it be safer and easier to say your just not Binary ? And that would be like any other LGBTQ person on earth right ?
I had to chuckle at myself earlier reading you Intro , because it reminded me of how I Intro'd myself in my first AA Meeting years ago ( over a decade sober ) . When I said I'm Kelly and I'm an alcoholic , but I'm not your normal common alcoholic . The gentleman that spoke after me , told me " your an alcoholic alright , and your " terminally Unique , and Fatally cool " :-) .....
My point with that story is were all non-binary , any LGBTQ , and we all may be special people , but were not unique ;-)
Glad your here , enjoy the place , its pretty cool .

Kelly Girl out

[thereaverofdarkness]

I'd say nobody really is binary. I think most of us have a desire to fit in, so if we're close to fitting in somewhere, we try to squeeze in and pretend we're a perfect match. I always felt from a young age that I'm just not like the other boys. For a time I felt I was like the girls, but eventually I realized I'm just a unique person. So non-binary is a good label for me I guess. I like to identify as transgender because I am feminine and I like my femininity, but I'm no match for either gender. I don't really like to make a fuss about gender either, so I just mostly skip gender traits. Funny thing is, if I dress in comfortable clothing and am lazy about my appearance, people feel I look like a man. =P

I am partial to Hawaiian shirts, though, because they are very colorful! I love bright colors even though I realize they're not necessarily very stylish. I'm happy that these shirts are built to fit a man, but it seems a bit more like women's attire sometimes. Then again I guess most women prefer to have garments accentuate their own looks, rather than take center stage.

Sometimes I like to dress nice, especially if I'm going out to see new people. I am interested in women's clothing but haven't gotten into wearing it because it's generally just not cut right to fit my body. One thing that bothers me is that so many women can find skinny jeans that are a perfect fit--even larger women can still find jeans that are snug up against their legs. But there seems to be no pants for men that do that, and if I try to squeeze into thinner pants it causes space conflicts with my male anatomy.

But I guess I'm rambling on.

[Kelly Girl]

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I'd say nobody really is binary. I think most of us have a desire to fit in, so if we're close to fitting in somewhere, we try to squeeze in and pretend we're a perfect match. I always felt from a young age that I'm just not like the other boys. For a time I felt I was like the girls, but eventually I realized I'm just a unique person. So non-binary is a good label for me I guess. I like to identify as transgender because I am feminine and I like my femininity, but I'm no match for either gender. I don't really like to make a fuss about gender either, so I just mostly skip gender traits. Funny thing is, if I dress in comfortable clothing and am lazy about my appearance, people feel I look like a man. =P

I am partial to Hawaiian shirts, though, because they are very colorful! I love bright colors even though I realize they're not necessarily very stylish. I'm happy that these shirts are built to fit a man, but it seems a bit more like women's attire sometimes. Then again I guess most women prefer to have garments accentuate their own looks, rather than take center stage.

Sometimes I like to dress nice, especially if I'm going out to see new people. I am interested in women's clothing but haven't gotten into wearing it because it's generally just not cut right to fit my body. One thing that bothers me is that so many women can find skinny jeans that are a perfect fit--even larger women can still find jeans that are snug up against their legs. But there seems to be no pants for men that do that, and if I try to squeeze into thinner pants it causes space conflicts with my male anatomy.

But I guess I'm rambling on.

Thanks for elaboraring on your stance , that helped , me . :-)
There are allot of people who identify with their maleness or femaleness and indulge their body as a perfect match to that , and are attracted to the opposite sex of their own , that's Binary . It also has nothing to do with just fitting in when a person is like that . Most of society is like that actually . I do agree that most people like to fit in though , and can definitely rob themselves of their genuine selves by doing that. Depending on circumstances , some have to fit in or hide their gender identities to not be abused or murdered , jail being the perfect example .
Hay , thanks for sharing , good stuff :-)
Enjoy , Kelly Girl out

[Michelle_P]

One thing that bothers me is that so many women can find skinny jeans that are a perfect fit--even larger women can still find jeans that are snug up against their legs. But there seems to be no pants for men that do that, and if I try to squeeze into thinner pants it causes space conflicts with my male anatomy.

Pants on the women's aisle often include a secret ingredient not found in the men's aisle.  Spandex!  The fabric is made to be a bit stretchy.  That covers a wealth of issues.  Take a look at 'missy' cuts, made for older women, rather than anorexic teens.  The missy cut has a larger waist for a given hip and inseam.  I wear a size 8, for example, but it can be a bit baggy in spots.  A size 6 missy jean is just about perfect on this imperfect body.

[Sno]

I had a pair of jeans from the US that had spandex in. Totally amazing.

Welcome.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am AMAB, and present as male (1000 reasons), but highly female in thought and perception.

The way I perceive the definition of transgender, is either desire to be the opposite gender, or not within the boundaries of your gender assigned at birth. I'm definitely in the latter camp, as whilst I do not desire male physical traits, I do not desire female traits, although I am more feminine in thought and action.

I identify presently as neutrois, because the majority of my way of going about life isn't one specific gender role, and I don't feel strongly that I am anything but somewhere in between and yes, it can confuse the heck out of folk around.

Sno.

[thereaverofdarkness]

Pants on the women's aisle often include a secret ingredient not found in the men's aisle.  Spandex!

Well, that explains a lot! Still, I have rather manly legs, so I don't think I'm likely to find any women's pants in my shape. I'll keep an eye out, though, now that I know they have spandex!

I identify presently as neutrois, because the majority of my way of going about life isn't one specific gender role, and I don't feel strongly that I am anything but somewhere in between and yes, it can confuse the heck out of folk around.

Well It's neat to meet people who fall outside the norm! I guess you and I have something in common.