Several SRS questions

[JustOneQuestion]

I am in the middle of many new discovered questions with SRS only two weeks behind me. Instead of making a new thread with every question, I think it might be better to just ask them all in here .

Like.. Wound fluid keeps going. Day in, day out. How long is this an usual thing? I wear a sanitary napkin, I think is what you call it in English. Even so whenever I lay in bed, sit on a sofa or lean on clothes.. I make a mess. How long can I expect this?

Second! In America I notice many buy their own dilators. In the Netherlands you pay a certain amount and receive these:
https://www.wellnessproducts.ch/bilder/3541.jpg

I like these. The handle at the bottom makes it easier for inserting.. Minus point is that yunstart with the third biggest and they advice you to use this till you are further in your recovery. Now I can feel with this dilator I am not at my max depth. No idea what my max depth is but I do know that right now it can only shrink .. Which I rather it doesn't :/.

Can someone please give me an url where you can buy a set from small to big but where the length of them is longer? Also.. My boyfriend is bigger than this biggest one. He is familiar with not fitting into a girl completely. But the width is adjustable right?

Last question (for now :p)! After dilating your vagina is quite the gap. This doesn't stay this way forever right? An usual vagina isn't always wide open either.. O.o?

Thank you!

[Dena]

The drip can last a month or two and I would wear the heaviest pad I could find and expect to change to or three times a day.

I bought my dilator in a Adult book store but they don't do it that way any longer. Some of the ones they currently used can be found here https://www.soulsource.com
When I bought my dilator, I was told to buy one that was about the same size I was before surgery. If you had a procedure using a graft, you may be able to use a larger dilator. I would suggest that you talk to your doctor about it as this will depend on the the surgery you received.

As for the last question, I am not sure what you are asking but my vagina tends to remain open a little even after many years. What yours will look like, I don't know.

[JustOneQuestion]

As large as in length or width? There was skin craft used to increase my depth.

[Dena]

The sex toy I purchased had sufficient length but the doctor was talking about width. I had penile inversion surgery so the objective was to maintain a width the same as the one I had before surgery. For me, that was about 1.5 inches or around 38mm. I am not sure if I could take a guy who was much larger.

[Jenna Marie]

I use the Soul Source dilators, which are 9 inches long.  Yes, to some degree at least, it is possible to gain width.
This will be limited by the size of the pelvis and the willingness of the muscles to stretch, but I can accommodate the largest Soul Source dilator (38 mm) easily.

I only needed pads for about a month, but I have no idea if that was normal or not...

And the "gaping open" look was mostly during the healing phase; these days (I'm several years post-op) the vagina is closed and covered by my labia unless I spread my legs wide open, and then it looks like what I've seen on cis women.

[JustOneQuestion]

I found that the biggest I got is 37mm.. I think my bf is about 40mm then. Judging from saying it goes easily I assume that should be possible. Also I wonder.. Now with dilating 2 weeks post up you can barely even press it in. You have to wiggle it inside? Which works for now but on long term, and with sex, is it possible with lube that it jusg slides in also because the real thing is less hard?

Sorry for such personal questions but could maybe someone tell me how the sex goes if prepared with dilation and whether, if you as example can take 35mm with a hard dilator, is it possible to get the same size or slightly bigger penis in or does the dilator always has to be bigger?

[JustOneQuestion]

And also I been looking but nowhere do I find a dilator of 40mm.. Does anyone know ?

[AnonyMs]

And also I been looking but nowhere do I find a dilator of 40mm.. Does anyone know ?

Re: What diameter is your largest dilator?
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,202379.msg1804474.html#msg1804474

I found it by typing this into google

    site:susans.org dilator 40 mm

[JustOneQuestion]

Thanks! My largest one is 37mm. I use a 32mm now. Going to buy one inbetween for the time being because the 32mm does not cover the full depth. Just got to find a good one now >_<. Most dilators look so.. Boring cosmetic.

[Jenna Marie]

You should be aware that the larger the dilator, the less the apparent depth will be - some of the vagina is going to stretching *around* it rather than *out* to full depth - so do not expect the next size up from 32mm to show MORE depth.

[JustOneQuestion]

I am not sure if I understand what you mean?

[JustOneQuestion]

You mean a larger one will apear as if it goes less deep because it is thicker?

[Laura_7]

You mean a larger one will apear as if it goes less deep because it is thicker?

Well the whole thing might have been a misunderstanding...
you need a dilator which is physically long enough to fit all in.

And yes a thicker dilator might make it appear as there is a bit less depth ... simply because the surface cannot be expanded that fast ... it might be possible after a few dilations there is some kind of stretching effect.
I'd not overdo it 

Some people use bioidentical estrogen cream from a gyn to help soften the tissue ... from time to time ...
otc creams usually do not have enough estrogen content...

and some people reported smell when using premarin ...


*hugs*

[Jenna Marie]

Yes, that is exactly what I mean. The thicker the dilator, the less depth it will appear to reach. I get almost an inch less apparent depth with the 38 mm than with the smallest dilator. This is true for cis women too, though; it's basically a law of physics as applied to vaginas.   Imagine sticking the dilator in a balloon : the bigger the dilator, the more the balloon will have to stretch around it rather than lengthening, right?

So you can either check your depth with the smallest dilator from time to time, or make a note that the depth you get with the largest should be *consistent* - this is what I do, since if the depth with the largest stays the same, by definition I have not lost depth.

But the basic point is that if you think you'll see more depth with the larger dilator that you just bought, that probably will not happen. Don't panic!

[Lara1969]

We (Schaff girls) get a set of dilators where the largest one is 210*40mm which is suffcient in most cases.

The inner labia closes immediatly after dilation or having sex. But I did not had a PI. I am not sure how it is if you have a penile inversion.

I needed pads for almost three months. Now I need when after having sex. I get very wet when aroused and I do not like to have a wet slip.

[JustOneQuestion]

My English goes a bit choppy sometimes.. so once more.. sorry xD if with my 3 the length is about 15 a 16 cm. With the 4 it might become like 12? Can the 4 eventually also reach the 15 again then? Sorry for the many questions about the same subject. I am a bit slow >_<.

After how many weeks or months did you all increase size anyhow? Atm I use one which is 32mm. I want to order one which is also 32, but longer and possible a 35mm as a step in between. Still got a 37mm then .. I just really want to buy the Soul Source dilators. They look so much nicer .

[JustOneQuestion]

And I think my boyfriend is inbetween 40 and 45mm wide and 18cm long so I am a bit nervous wither this can even be pleasurable eventually. At least I warned him I doubt we will be having sex anytime soon due havong to stretch it first x_x.

[Jenna Marie]

I definitely like the Soul Source dilators.

I'm sorry, I don't know how else to explain it, but no, the bigger dilators will never achieve the same depth as the smaller ones. It doesn't mean you lost depth, it just means vaginas work that way. (In other words, if you check your depth with the smaller dilator, you should *still* see the same depth you did before. If the bigger dilator reaches greater depth, the smaller one should also increase in depth proportionally, so that the bigger will always be hitting less deeply.)

[JustOneQuestion]

Oh like so. I think I understand :p. The main reason why I mentioned a bigger dilator to go deeper is because my number 3 is only about 13cm long. Even when it is completely in and I put pressure in it I do not feel a wall/stop or anything. Maybe it is only a cm I am missing but even so I am going to try and order the Soul Source dilators . Even if it is for the biggest part because dilating shouldn't be such a chore so I rather push something happy colorful looking inside me .

Kay something completely different tho! A bit weird to even mention. Sure I got some loose stitches healing up and plenty wound fluid.. But not much pain. Mostly discomfort. I still lack a lot of energy and struggle to walk for very long. I lay down a lot, and get up every now and then tk stay active. One mystery although.. Is that my bum hurts me the most. As if the skin is slightly irritated on my bum, but you do not see anything. Might be as simple as that I sit too much, is that the case or does anyone recognize this? Tis a bit weird I guess but I will just trow everything out in this thread xD.

Also thank you Lara ^^ I will look forward for able to get rid of the constant pad wearing then around 3 months !

[Jenna Marie]

Oh! I'm so sorry - you're right, the confusion was on my end. Well, the 9" Soul Source dilators ought to be enough for you to use. And they are both cheerfully colored and really comfortable to hold, plus I like the gently curved tip (I think it's easier to get inside).

I had the "no pain but constant fatigue," too, for months.