Quote from: Dena on March 11, 2016, 09:42:06 PM
The theory is a forbidden topic on this site as it has been disproven so no more discussion of it. As for the rest, having SRS and being non binary form the other side is acceptable and you will find some of the posters in those threads are exactly that. The two questions you have to answer is who do you want to go to bed as and who do you want to go to bed with.
Some people are close enough to the center that surgery isn't important to them others are closer to the transsexual end and if they ID as female 80-90% of the time. They find it difficult to remain comfortable with their birth gender.
It's going to be a value call if cross living or surgery will put you in the comfort zone and I can't answer it for you.
One thing is sure and that is you will have a lot to report to your doctor on the next visit. Think your doctor will give me a kick back 
Well IMHO if you're like me and in the very grey 50% +/- end of the spectrum life can be complicated, especially for a late transitioner where you figured out (mostly) how to make value judgements to balance so many conflicting needs/wants.
For me surgery is not even on the radar. In an ideal world I'd live full time as female in a heartbeat. In the real world there is too much risk for my personal circumstances. My body dysphoria is not all that overwhelming. My size/weight and flab factor bothers me more more then dangly bits. Both I'd rather not have, my weight is a constant battle.
My wife is far from thrilled how my body has changed. At the same time those changes have given me life, given me a life. That she is OK with. I compromise as does she. I have a prioity list of needs which is pretty much totally satisfied. "Wants".... well we all have them. They help define our lives, give a reason to struggle, give us joy.
As a late bloomer THE one most important tidbit of information as well as the most confounding thing is "Needs" and "Wants". While neither one must be satisfied, "Needs" are essentially absolutes. "Wants".... well, they can wait
In my 20's I twice "Experimented" with transitioning. I wanted to see how life can be as a female after wanting to be one for pretty much all of it. I learned the reality of it for a kid in the 70's. I learned I did not "Need" to transition.
Thirty years later I was hit with a need to do something about being trans. Especially to do something about how I was not handling being trans. I started this phase with transition completely off the table. Been there. Tried it. NOT for me.
There are days I feel I need to transition. Most days I'd like to. Many days I wish someone will shot me and put me out of my misery. Most days I'm also just fine being.....me. The new, enlightened me, who spent a ton of hours and (emotional) energy growing. The me with a body I live with thanks to HRT, yet still living and working as male.
So far the days I'd "Like" to, vs the the days I "Need" are heavily tilted to the "Like" to end. I try to maintain the balance I need to in my life
