Lad Culture?

[KongBeta]

Hello!

So I'm new to the uk and the university culture/system in general.

So I have some general culture shock going on and some uk uni specific confusions. (Like how 70% is the best grade range)
So I thought I should ask you nicies for some input and experiences. Recently I've come to read up on and understand lad culture a bit and it seems fairly straight forward as its the same as the USA/Canada frat mentality or the Colombian adolescent macho culture.

So I get the basics behind that, but how prevalent is it really? Now it does seem to be less present in my uni's faculty of technology but I'll have to deal with people in general so what's your experience been like?

I'm planning on coming out fully over the summer and starting the whole social transitioning thing better from then on, so I'm bracing for impact.

TLDNR: How prevalent is lad culture in uk unis? How have your experiences with it been like? Any advice you can give me with dealing with those types of people?

Thank you for your time,
- Alexis

[Lisa55]

Cant really help with current university experiences as its a long time ago now that i went to one.  One thing to note though is lad culture generally comes with diminished intelligence and is 'pack' like behavior,  so on the whole in a university setting you may not encounter it too much.  That is not to say it wont sneak in where alcohol diminishes intelligence such as the student union bar or where there are 'pack' gatherings.

The other trigger for laddish behavior is when males have the dominant presence and especially with alcohol, so vertical binge drinking pubs and football (soccer) matches. Generally though its not too big a problem unless your moving in those spaces.  However that's not to say if you are read as being trans a "lad" wont use the opportunity to make himself look "good/funny" in front of his "woman" or mates no matter where you are, but those interactions tend to be opportunistic, fleeting in nature and not too dangerous, the damage will be mainly to your confidence rather than physical.

Its also worth noting that laddish culture is not restricted to males,  Vertical drinking pubs will have laddish woman in them too.

[Laura_7]

Generally when dealing with people you might:
-be nice without making the impression to be easily overwhelmed.
Like in general being kind, a bit outgoing and nice ...
and keeping inside the stance of a lady ... no swearing, a solid and a bit amused outlook maybe ... but kind of a regal attitude ... like a fortress lol

so in general being someone people like to be with ... with good manners ... but with kind of a solid side ...

this should keep people away who only want to mock or fool around ... they usually feel if they went too far, and their kind of humour is not appreciated ...
just keeping a regal attitude then helps imo...

British people imo kind of want to save their faces and want to have an orderly impression on the outside ...
and usually are happy if they feel the other doesn't care that much about superficial things and can take them as they are (no social peer pressure etc).


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[Kylo]

I've been to 3 different unis in 3 different UK cities and there is very little 'lad culture' there - somewhat insulated from it. The most of that kinda thing I encountered was actually among some Greek students on exchange, and other students from outside the UK. You might find a few people embodying the culture in a uni but note - few. Most 'laddish' types are not so interested in further education from what I see.

You're likely to encounter lad culture in regular pubs and high street hangouts at night in major cities. I live in the middle of nowhere but there's still some 'lads' around because of the proximity of a pub used by tourists and bikers. Wherever there's large pubs or clubs you'll encounter it to some degree in the UK. It's not that difficult to avoid if you pick your hangouts.

Sometimes it can be hard to discern 'laddish' behavior from general drunkeness here. I myself have stolen a few street signs and peed in a few gardens, ridden a few shopping trolleys and yelled a lot after a few. Drunkeness in UK universities you will see - and how. 

[Laura_7]

Sometimes it can be hard to discern 'laddish' behavior from general drunkeness here. I myself have stolen a few street signs and peed in a few gardens, ridden a few shopping trolleys and yelled a lot after a few. Drunkeness in UK universities you will see - and how. 

This seems to be a bit of a british symptom...
so OP beware too much alcohol ...


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