My parents and transitioning...

[link5019]

So, I have been on HRT for offically 5 days as of today...My parents however have been less than...well less than nice about it. Today I woke up to my father handing me a piece of paper. Basically, in their mind, transitioning is an adult decision and that if you are under the age of 18 it is wrong to transition. I personally am 19. So my parents, have come and told me I have not tried to talk to them about this, tried to do anything for them, and that I have been completely selfish and self-centered about this whole thing. I have personally on multiple accounts tried to talk to them but they wouldn't listen and won't even come talk on here or even a support group. My father thinks I should have waited an additional 6 months for him to be ready. They don't believe I've known for years, they don't trust me on this. I have felt better since I start HRT but they say that means nothing to them. So basically they think I am demanding them to be okay with this right away, I'm not demanding that at all. So basically now my father is thinking oh well you're making an adult decision so pay me money to help with bills, and I have limited income so I don't really have the money to do HRT and pay him the 100 dollars or so, but he doesn't care. I've tried to be honest with them, but like they have stated out right they don't trust this, they don't believe I'm trans, my parents have stated they will never call me by the name I chose, they have stated they won't use female pronouns for a long while, they think that I should have waited until they were ready, my father thinks he should have forced me to wait 6 months to a year until he was ready...It's basically been a nonstop fight with them, and they think I am disrespecting them and being selfish and immature about transitioning...I was in an argument with my parents today about this 100 dollar payment my father created, and he actually tried to hit me, because I was offended and arguing about it. I don't know what to do about my parents...It hurts to see them reject like this and then say they aren't rejecting. What should I do? What can I do about them?

[Devlyn]

Big hug! When you live under someone's roof, you live by their rules. When you're an adult like you, all your decisions are your own, but so are the consequences. Asking you to pay your share of the bills is reasonable. You have to decide if you want to live at home for $100 or if you want to head out on your own, and that is expensive. But as my friend Tina says: "Nothing tastes better than a peanut butter sandwich made with your bread, your peanut butter, and your knife, on your table in your house."

Hugs, Devlyn

[link5019]

Big hug! When you live under someone's roof, you live by their rules. When you're an adult like you, all your decisions are your own, but so are the consequences. Asking you to pay your share of the bills is reasonable. You have to decide if you want to live at home for $100 or if you want to head out on your own, and that is expensive. But as my friend Tina says: "Nothing tastes better than a peanut butter sandwich made with your bread, your peanut butter, and your knife, on your table in your house."

Hugs, Devlyn

I don't have a problem paying the $100, the problem I have is the reasoning behind it. they decided to put the $100 on me because I am transitioning, because of their stance on transgender people. They put it in place because they don't agree with me transitioning and doing it as a means to force me into a corner. That was their entire reason behind it. If it was to help pay the bills or help them, I wouldn't have an issue, but that's not the case, they are doing it for completely different reasons. I've wanted to move out for a while, but I don't have anyone who wants to be roommates so it makes it a little more difficult