Tips for coming out to friends

[Lebedinaja]

Sooo in about 4 hours, my friends will be there. I invited them over for some selfmade food

I know both since we were little kids and we are best friends ... always sticking together and so on.
The problems is, they are very conservative and I don't think they will really try to understand it ...
No I don't have hormones, long hair or whatever yet ... still looking like .. a boy.

Any tips? Maybe I shouldn't come out yet and wait till they ask themselves why their friend looks like a girl already
I don't know ... please give some advice...

[Ms Grace]

What are you hoping for in coming out to them now? Do you want to be able to go out in female mode with them? Or would you rather they use female pronouns for you? If it's none of that then maybe there's no need to tell them right now. I found it was easier to tell most of my friends just before I was about to transition - that way they weren't left wondering about when I was going to do something, or feel weird if I was switching between presented genders depending on the circumstances, etc.

Anyway, the best approach is just to tell them you are transgender and what your plans are and what they can expect within a rough timeframe. Be prepared for questions and incredulity. If they are conservative you may have to face some hostility and close minded attitudes. Hope it goes well.

[Laura_7]

There are brochures by reputable sources, for example the british NHS, showing being trans has biological connections.

There are differences in brains of women and men so a mismatch is possible.
Its literally a womans brain in a mans body and vice versa. So its really how people feel.
Its explained with pictures and can be translated into another language.

http://www.gires.org.uk/assets/DOH-Assets/pdf/doh-transgender-experiences.pdf

www.translate.google.com

If its biological its nobodys fault... not an upbringing or whatever ... and its not likely to be a phase...

Some people make a comparison with a twin... they will be like their male/female twin, with the same sense of humour...

one strategy could be to explain your feelings and show some materials ...


here is another resource, written from a cis persons point of view:
http://www.acceptingdad.com/2013/08/05/to-the-unicorns-dad/

There are a few points included which might help understand.

Well baseline is ... what do you expect from it ?
Could they raise doubts which might drag you down ?
Or do you feel they might be understanding and you might have a better time ?


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[Laura_7]

So its p elmeni or p ierogi ?

Hmm ... I especially like the sweet ones ... and the potatoe filled ones ...
food is international these days 




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[Lebedinaja]

So its p elmeni or p ierogi ?

Hmm ... I especially like the sweet ones ... and the potatoe filled ones ...
food is international these days 




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thanks for the advice above, was very helpful

I didn't tell them yet, I think I will wait some time.

Pelmeni I made them with meat/onions, and mushrooms/egg/onions.
Haven't tasted the sweet ones yet, but I definitely have to.

True, it's nice to experience the worlds tastes

[Laura_7]

The sweet ones are made with a bit of sugar in the dough and filled with sweetened farmers cheese and cherries.
Really deliscious.
You can make a game out of it and fill one of them with plums ... the one with the plum is a winnner.

Also deliscious are the ones filled with a potatoe and onion mixture.
They usually are served with beetroot, really deliscious too.

Its also possible to make larger ones so its not that much of a hassle to make them.


Glad it helped 
Ms Grace had a very similar advice 


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[Lebedinaja]

What are you hoping for in coming out to them now? Do you want to be able to go out in female mode with them? Or would you rather they use female pronouns for you? If it's none of that then maybe there's no need to tell them right now. I found it was easier to tell most of my friends just before I was about to transition - that way they weren't left wondering about when I was going to do something, or feel weird if I was switching between presented genders depending on the circumstances, etc.

Anyway, the best approach is just to tell them you are transgender and what your plans are and what they can expect within a rough timeframe. Be prepared for questions and incredulity. If they are conservative you may have to face some hostility and close minded attitudes. Hope it goes well.

Thanks  you were right, no need to tell them already. I just waited...

[Lebedinaja]

The sweet ones are made with a bit of sugar in the dough and filled with sweetened farmers cheese and cherries.
Really deliscious.
You can make a game out of it and fill one of them with plums ... the one with the plum is a winnner.

Also deliscious are the ones filled with a potatoe and onion mixture.
They usually are served with beetroot, really deliscious too.

Its also possible to make larger ones so its not that much of a hassle to make them.


Glad it helped 
Ms Grace had a very similar advice 


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I have to try them out the next time. There are many awesome receipts

[Laura_7]

I have to try them out the next time. There are many awesome receipts

Here is a recipe for sweet ones with farmers cheese and cherries (yummy )

http://valentinascorner.com/pierogies-with-farmers-cheese-vareniki-s-tvorogom/

here is one with potatoe and onion filling ... easy to make and deliscious :

http://www.thekitchn.com/reader-recipe-p-11535

Its possible besides boiling to fry them in a pan and to bake them on a baking sheet in the oven.
Its also possible to make large ones, the size of a roll and larger, and bake them.
This way the hassle of making many small ones is avoided. They just should not be too thick.

They look and taste yummy



By the way those kinds of filled dishes made from dough are spread all over the world, made with yummy local fillings.
In India they are also filled with potatoes, and spices from there.
Its often easy, cheap and very tasty recipes.


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