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SRS - do we really need it

Started by jessicats, March 28, 2016, 11:15:08 AM

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Michelle G

For me at least, the expense and recovery time for SRS is the main deal breaker.

As far as sex drive goes I've never really had one and I've always had quite a "disconnect" from the boy parts anyway making having sex often being an embarrassing futile attempt.

  Mother Nature at least made up for those things by giving me some natural girly physical attributes and a nice happy, female state of mind.
Just a "California Girl" trying to enjoy each sunny day
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Laura_7

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Karen_A

Quote from: Briezy on March 28, 2016, 04:48:43 PM(I have a great healthcare team at the Fenway in Boston so don't worry I'm not going to do that. lol)

What made you choose to go there? I have been off HRT for a number of years (I'm over 17 years post-op) and am looking to restart. I really did not want to have to deal with driving into the city with the traffic and parking so I ruled out the Fenway... There is an endo at Lahey in Burlington who handles  TS HRT so I plan to go there. Did you know about her, and if so why did you not chose her?

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Also for me age is a bit of a factor I guess. I am only 42 but it really does seem like such a physically traumatic surgery and quite frankly the recovery scares me.

I had SRS at 43 (one week after my birthday) and not very fit... For me it was not a difficult sugary. I had BA at the same time and THAT hurt worst!

If you don't feel you need SRS that is fine... but if you are in good health you should not fear the surgery being physically traumatic with a good surgeon.

- Karen
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cheryl reeves

Bottom surgery has always been off the table for I'm a lesbian with the perfect strapon,besides I wanted children and a marriage. Been married 28yrs so must be doing something right and my wife and her sis are my biggest supporters.
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HeatherR

Since I haven't seen it mentioned, one thing about having a surgery to remove the gonads, T production continues with the adrenal glands...  Since androgen blockers are discontinued, the testosterone is freely able to bind to t receptors.  So theoretically while you may have lower T levels, more is effectively used.  That is my understanding at least.
The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.  ~Ralph Blum~



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CatBlack

You only need SRS if it's what you want. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to do things the way that worked for them.

That said I feel it's very necessary for me. Other than the desirable functional sexual aspects and the beneficial psychological ones, there is a physical benefit of me no longer needing to take spironolactone, which can be harsh on the kidneys, causes me constipation, and made me put my seven year long vegetarianism on hiatus in order to control my potassium levels 
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Zumbagirl

You can debate whether or not SRS is a cure for transsexualism but the only thing I can say with definite proof is that it sure cured me. I wouldn't trade my lady parts for all the tea in China.
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Briezy

Quote from: Karen_A on May 03, 2016, 06:27:50 PM
What made you choose to go there? I have been off HRT for a number of years (I'm over 17 years post-op) and am looking to restart. I really did not want to have to deal with driving into the city with the traffic and parking so I ruled out the Fenway... There is an endo at Lahey in Burlington who handles  TS HRT so I plan to go there. Did you know about her, and if so why did you not chose her?

That's a good question. I went to a free information night there that I think they have once a week or something and they were nice and set up an appointment. While I was waiting I started talking with Doctor Forcier in Rhode Island (I'm on the Southcoast and a lot closer to providence than Boston.) There were a lot more hoops to jump through in RI though and while I was trying to get in there I had my appointment at the Fenway and they were just so great and knowing is get hrt on my next appointment I just stayed with them. I don't regret it. Sure there is traffic but there is always metered parking near the one on Boyleston.

And thank you for sharing your srs story. Just in the time that I posted that I have already started to believe that I will be getting the surgery. It just feels right. Thanks.
-Brie Katherine  :-*

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Karen_A

Quote from: Briezy on May 04, 2016, 02:33:26 PM
There were a lot more hoops to jump through in RI though and while I was trying to get in there I had my appointment at the Fenway and they were just so great and knowing is get hrt on my next appointment I just stayed with them. I don't regret it.

The reason I asked is that I would like to know the HRT philosophy of both places... i REALLY don't want to go to the Fenway but I also worry that given my age and that I am long post-op I could wind up with an endo that prescribes too conservatively.

As to SRS., if you do go that route, make sure you go to someone with a good reputation that has done a LOT of surgeries... I know I did not someone just learning or trying to refine their skills on me. Make sure you contact a lot of their patients ... Back in the day I ran into a lot of former patients of a then well known surgeon (now retired ) that had a lot of issues.

Obviously the need for SRS is an individual thing and I respect whatever decision someone makes for themselves...

While I can rationally come up with reasons,  I have to admit I don't really understand emotionally why someone would want to transition and not want to have SRS (understanding all that want it may not be able to get it).

For myself if I did not feel the need for SRS, I would not have transitioned.

- karen

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AnonyMs

Quote from: HeatherR on May 04, 2016, 02:11:14 AM
Since I haven't seen it mentioned, one thing about having a surgery to remove the gonads, T production continues with the adrenal glands...  Since androgen blockers are discontinued, the testosterone is freely able to bind to t receptors.  So theoretically while you may have lower T levels, more is effectively used.  That is my understanding at least.

Dr Suporn has something to say about this. I'll just link to someone else quoting it.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,163131.msg1529919.html#msg1529919

There are other references to such things if you're interested.

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CrysC

Going back to the original question, most trans folks do not have surgery.  It's personal choice.  As several other girls alluded to, it depends on how much dysphoria your male bits cause you.  I am overall pretty happy to be me except when dealing with that so yea, I'm totally SRS bound. 

The Washington Post did a writeup on the general topic https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/02/09/heres-how-sex-reassignment-surgery-works/ and they cite Dr Bowers as saying "two of the 1,300 people she has operated on have wanted to go back to their old bodies" 

With respect to suicide rates, surgeries help align body with mind but there is still a lot of stress due to being trans and going through this.  The strain on family, friends, etc is huge.  Many are also sadly stressed if they do not pass in their own eyes.  Thus said, the suicide rate is understandably higher than the national norm. http://www.transadvocate.com/fact-check-study-shows-transition-makes-trans-people-suicidal_n_15483.htm


There was a recent writeup that living where you are forced to use the bathroom that matches the birth assigned gender raises the suicide rate from ~42% to near 60%.  I got lazy and didn't look it up.  It's recent though if you want to see it.

Long story short, if you need to do SRS then you need it.  Most don't get it for one reason or another.  It isn't a panacea for all ills but for many it is a huge weight off of their backs.  For me, it's a matter of being and living where I should be.  I do not identify as trans.  I identify as woman.  For me, this is needed. 
 
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