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What aspect of life do you most look forward to after transition?

Started by KarlMars, April 04, 2016, 06:30:02 PM

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KarlMars

Seeing someone posting their good experience of life after transition inspired me to ask this question.

What are some of the main things you look forward to after transition and living your life as your true gender?

I look forward as being taken more seriously and respected as a male. I look forward to someday to having more physical strength and body building to help that along. Work a job as a male instead of a female and male bonding, as well as having an emotional attachment to my body I don't have as a female and sure I'll have as a male.

FTMax

Being able to quit my job and move. It's not at all what I want to do or where I want to be living, but I have really good health insurance that is covering my last few surgeries so I feel obligated to stay at least until those are finished.
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cindianna_jones

I can only tell you what my experience has been. I'll be coming up on my thirtieth year since GRS within the year. It took me a few years to get my act together and I jumped into a relationship for which I was ill prepared. But many people do that from the outset, not just us. I had a good career. I loved most of the jobs I had. My dysphoria disappeared once my history was lost in my work place. I've certainly had a different outlook on life than everyone else I know. I feel like I've lived two lifetimes... and since my hubby left me, I'm starting a third.

For the most part, my life has been exceptionally dull. I've done a lot of things that not many would consider but even at that, I've not raised too many eyebrows. I've had a good life and I'm proud for my accomplishments. I'm proud that I had the means to support my children through the years. I'm proud of who I am and the things I stand for.

So... overall, I'm content. And that is what you might be headed for. There are no guarantees to be sure, but I'm overly joyed that I did not remain in that role defined by others for me. I'm sure I would not be alive today.
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KarlMars

Quote from: FTMax on April 04, 2016, 06:50:53 PM
Being able to quit my job and move. It's not at all what I want to do or where I want to be living, but I have really good health insurance that is covering my last few surgeries so I feel obligated to stay at least until those are finished.

Where are you moving to?

KarlMars

Quote from: Cindi Jones on April 04, 2016, 07:01:52 PM
I can only tell you what my experience has been. I'll be coming up on my thirtieth year since GRS within the year. It took me a few years to get my act together and I jumped into a relationship for which I was ill prepared. But many people do that from the outset, not just us. I had a good career. I loved most of the jobs I had. My dysphoria disappeared once my history was lost in my work place. I've certainly had a different outlook on life than everyone else I know. I feel like I've lived two lifetimes... and since my hubby left me, I'm starting a third.

For the most part, my life has been exceptionally dull. I've done a lot of things that not many would consider but even at that, I've not raised too many eyebrows. I've had a good life and I'm proud for my accomplishments. I'm proud that I had the means to support my children through the years. I'm proud of who I am and the things I stand for.

So... overall, I'm content. And that is what you might be headed for. There are no guarantees to be sure, but I'm overly joyed that I did not remain in that role defined by others for me. I'm sure I would not be alive today.

That's inspirational.

FTMax

Quote from: alienbodybuilder on April 05, 2016, 06:16:42 AM
Quote from: FTMax on April 04, 2016, 06:50:53 PM
Being able to quit my job and move. It's not at all what I want to do or where I want to be living, but I have really good health insurance that is covering my last few surgeries so I feel obligated to stay at least until those are finished.

Where are you moving to?

To Canada within the next two years hopefully!
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Kylo

Not waking up each day and just kinda wanting my life to be over already. That would be nice.

Don't even care about what I look like. I just don't want to feel this bad.
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Elis

I most look forward to having top surgery. To be completely flat and to walk around topless will just be the most amazing experience. I'm still ages away from that happening though :/. Second to that would simply looking 100% undoubtedly masculine/male and to be able to grow some sort of facial hair. That's what keeps me from drowning in a pit of despair and giving up.
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arice

Being seen as and treated as a guy by people I encounter.
Having a more masculine physique would be awesome... but I can handle the feminine if I'm not being treated like a woman.

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RobynD

For me it is a journey that i intend to enjoy more than a destination. I feel like the experiences and improvements thus far have been overwhelmingly positive. One thing i am looking forward to and beginning to experience is more women friends and activities together.

I'm looking forward to leaving this world as an old lady :) my authentic self but maybe about 40-50 yrs in the future.


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KarlMars

Quote from: FTMax on April 05, 2016, 08:58:26 AM
Where are you moving to?


To Canada within the next two years hopefully!

Are you going to become a citizen, and are the more accepting of LGBT?

KarlMars

Quote from: T.K.G.W. on April 05, 2016, 10:32:53 AM
Not waking up each day and just kinda wanting my life to be over already. That would be nice.

Don't even care about what I look like. I just don't want to feel this bad.
I understand that feeling, but I try to find little things that keep me going everyday aside from my gender dysphoria. My dysphoria is always on my mind though.

FTMax

Quote from: alienbodybuilder on April 05, 2016, 02:44:03 PM
Quote from: FTMax on April 05, 2016, 08:58:26 AM
Where are you moving to?


To Canada within the next two years hopefully!

Are you going to become a citizen, and are the more accepting of LGBT?

I would be becoming a citizen by marriage, my girlfriend is Canadian. They are generally much more accepting of LGBT people, but I'm sure it's like anywhere in the US - really depends where you are and who you're talking to.
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KarlMars

Quote from: FTMax on April 05, 2016, 02:49:33 PM
Are you going to become a citizen, and are the more accepting of LGBT?


I would be becoming a citizen by marriage, my girlfriend is Canadian. They are generally much more accepting of LGBT people, but I'm sure it's like anywhere in the US - really depends where you are and who you're talking to.

I heard they had some wild weather. You'll have to tell me about the climate and weather once you get there.

arice

I am Canadian. The weather is variable but most parts are definitely colder than much of the US...
We do tend to be more "liberal" (for lack of a better term) and equal rights for LGTBQ folks are legally enshrined... most people, even in rural areas, are pretty used to gays and lesbians and same sex marrive has been legal since 2005. Trans rights are a work in progress. There is currently a transphobic backlash in my province since our provincial government enacted laws protecting trans children... I expect that acceptance is just a matter of time though (and if it's anything like gay marriage acceptance, probably not much time).

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FTMax

Quote from: arice on April 05, 2016, 03:37:40 PM
I am Canadian. The weather is variable but most parts are definitely colder than much of the US...
We do tend to be more "liberal" (for lack of a better term) and equal rights for LGTBQ folks are legally enshrined... most people, even in rural areas, are pretty used to gays and lesbians and same sex marrive has been legal since 2005. Trans rights are a work in progress. There is currently a transphobic backlash in my province since our provincial government enacted laws protecting trans children... I expect that acceptance is just a matter of time though (and if it's anything like gay marriage acceptance, probably not much time).

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Which province are you in? Perhaps we'll be neighbors :D
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arice

Quote from: FTMax on April 05, 2016, 04:56:18 PM
Which province are you in? Perhaps we'll be neighbors :D
Alberta.

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arice

Quote from: FTMax on April 05, 2016, 05:34:43 PM
Alberta.

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WE WILL BE NEIGHBORS.
Cool!

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Christinetobe

The thing i look forward to the most is just being able to emotonally react and not have to worry about what others think. 
As Brett Michaels said Every Night Has its Dawn :)
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