I thought these days were over

[FrancisAnn]

I did the same thing with my FB page. A lot of them still friend requested me on the new page though and I accepted. I like what I like and share what I want to share. Anybody that has a problem with it can feel free to unfriend me. The days of me walking on eggshells are over.

WTG, if someone does not like it just tell them to Go Fish.... what part of leave me alone do you not understand.....spring cleaning feels great sometimes you know.

[Claire_Sydney]

Hey Emileee,

I'm sorry to hear this. I've been following your posts, and picked up on your enthusiasm for life right through your transition. Your positive experience in the workplace has given me hopes for my own future. Up until now, I have hoped that each little milestone in my transition mirrors your experiences.

It's just my opinion, but I don't think you should let a person try
to invalidate you. They haven't lived in your skin, and they couldn't possibly understand what you feel.

It's a bit sad to lose a few people who have been there for you for such a long time, but I think you'll make new, even better friends!

Keep your chin up.  You deserve to be happy.

{ Hugzz }

[FrancisAnn]

We cannot make all ppl happy. Absolutely no reason at all to worry about it. Go buy new shoes, have your nails done, try some new perfume.....something fun & good for you/us.

[Emileeeee]

I'm sorry to hear this. I've been following your posts, and picked up on your enthusiasm for life right through your transition. Your positive experience in the workplace has given me hopes for my own future. Up until now, I have hoped that each little milestone in my transition mirrors your experiences.

Glad they're helping somebody. That's the intention.

This friend thing is small potatoes. It hurt, mainly because they waited so long, but I've been very lucky with friends with a formerly 100% success rate (minus him now). My family was a different story. It was pretty much an even split. I had over 130 family members walk out of my life. My father's side stayed without question, my mother's side dropped me like a stone. My father and siblings also dropped me. My mother is one of my strongest supporters. That was pretty devastating and took several months to gather my emotions and get my head back on straight again.

[Emileeeee]

And the hits just keep on coming. Why can't people be honest up front? Why do they have to beat around the bush to try to convince you about how much they care, only to be a total jerk when you don't come around? They're now blasting me with numerous emails reminding me about how much of an idiot I am and even reminded me about the suicide rate in the community as part of the rant. I just lost that whole group of friends because one decided to be an ass and now the rest won't talk to me.

[Lilian J]

And the hits just keep on coming. Why can't people be honest up front? Why do they have to beat around the bush to try to convince you about how much they care, only to be a total jerk when you don't come around? They're now blasting me with numerous emails reminding me about how much of an idiot I am and even reminded me about the suicide rate in the community as part of the rant. I just lost that whole group of friends because one decided to be an ass and now the rest won't talk to me.

My father said something very similar to me and that he'll never understand me .

Meanwhile I can't understand the mindset of someone who truly believes there is a risk of suicide bringing it up in this sort of ignorant hurtful way and not carefully approaching it with compassion and empathy and support. 

Sorry about the group of friends but would be interesting to find out how much they all feel this way or are just being pressured by a know it all jerk. Maybe contact one or two and express concern for the jerk and their strange, unstable behavior and see what reaction you get?

[Emileeeee]

I hadn't thought of it that way. I was sitting here wondering how many other people are faking it and just trying not to blow their tops.

[Claire_Sydney]

Thinking about you Emileee.

I hope things will improve with your friends. I wonder if the others in the group know what a jerk this one person is being, but just don't have the courage and conviction to stand up for what's right?

If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. In which case you'll move on, and make new friends that appreciate you for the true person you are.

Lots of hugs!

[Emileeeee]

One of them is still talking to me and I'm meeting them for a happy hour soon.

I'd also like to apologize for my angry posts lately. This guy really messed my day up. Then it got me thinking about if one single person could put me in this spot at my age, how the heck do kids with parents like this guy handle that kind of torment day in and day out. The more I thought about it, the angrier I got. I had to stay away from the forums for a few days