Like yourself I was utterly terrified of losing my family and still worry from time to time but that's what I do.
My wife agrees the "new me" is far superior to "him" and neither of us wants "him" back but she struggles with me being female at times. She has come a very long way and is quite happy to be around me and out whilst I am dressed as I please (nothing fancy tbh but I only ever wear female clothes) although she does occasionally panic if I start to bounce or dance which I do when I'm happy.
My eldest daughter 11 has been my greatest surprise and at times my strongest support with absolutely no awkwardness.
Wise beyond her years with an intellect that surpasses mine (not that hard I guess lol) and apparently better educated than I thought we have had great times talking and playing.
She even worked out the answer to my existential dilemma faster than I did when I was telling her about it she is that good.
She completely accepts me and just as important to me my apologies for the years of her life that I was not me as we both know we missed out on so much.
There have been smiles, laughs and even tears but we are closer than ever.
My younger children 6 and 5 are too young to understand but they do know several things as certainties.
I love them, they love me, my favourite colour is pink, my fairy is called Jerrica (on my mug & callendar), my pony is Rarity, my hair colour is Tempting Chocolate (which is their favour colour to spy for I spy) and I changed my name to Gerry(Jerri) but to them I will always be Dad.
There is still a fear that when the younger children grow up they may one day turn around and go "You're what?!?!?" but I have faith that when the time comes and the dots are joined it will be more of a "Duh! So what..." kind of reaction.
Time will tell but whatever happens I will always love them.