When should I transition? And should I?

[Phobe1234]

Hi im Phoebe

I live in Yorkshire, and am currently preparing to take my GCSE's. Now I've always felt different to everyone else, though i've had little trouble fitting in as I have succumbed to being the stereotypical boy, such as video games and football. I have a few friends but I'm never invited to parties or be considered "cool". Ive been cross dressing since I was around 7 years old, starting with tights that I had to beg my mum to buy me, to asking my parents to buy me clothes every now and then. I've never told anyone apart from my mum and dad about my cross dressing and so feeling very isolated, thus me telling my story on this sight. I think the reason behind my gender identity is that When I was little my main friends were girls and I did ballet, and everybody said how I looked very girlish with an feminine complexion. And when I hit puberty instead of wearing tights and leotards as pajamas and superhero fantasy, I was jacking off in them. And when I first watched porn even till now I still imagine myself as the woman, no matter what the scenario is. So with my GCSE's coming up im revising for them and the thought of transitioning has come up. As obviously I wouldn't transition in this school year but maybe start by the start of 6 form? My fear is if I transition too late my bone and muscle density will be forever sealed in a boy's frame, and to transition before university would be a big bonus! But Im Very scared of what people will think of me throughout 6 form and am scared that my friends will abandon me I just want to be the girl I've always know about my whole life. Please help me
Pheobe x

[Ms Grace]

Hey Phoebe!

Welcome to Susan's Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

The decision of whether to transition is yours alone, as are any choices around timeline. I would suggest that if you are not already discussing these issues with a counsellor that you do so. One thing that almost all trans people need to get over if they want to transition in any way is put aside fears about what others think about them. Sure, some people won't like it, that is unavoidable in the present climate but a good counsellor will also help you develop ways to overcome that.

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[Cindy]

Hi Hon,

Wow, this and GSC's at the same time. Hang in their!

Since your folks seem understanding ask if they will take you to your GP for a referral the the gender clinic. I believe that is how the NHS works.

You may be able to go onto puberty blockers to prevent further changes.

[Vanessa_Glidewell]

I say come out asap. The longer you wait the more you'll regret not coming out sooner. And as far as hormones, that shouldn't be a #1 priority. I've been trans for awhile and haven't been on hormones, and I don't feel I need them to be a woman, and there's many biological traits of a guy I like having anyways, even if it means shaving and voice training. But hey, it's all up to you girl