He thinks I'm too young to know what I want

[tyler_c]

I'm 16, known I was transgender since 11-12. The dysphoria was getting bad as my body developed female and I'd wish I would wake up in a boy's body at night. I began asking myself if I wanted testosterone at 13, I knew I did, but I knew it was such a big decision that I refused to take it lightly. I mulled it over for 3 years and when I turned 16 I knew I was the average someone is can go on hormones so I went from "I really want to do that" to "I really want to do this now." I literally get butterflies in my stomach when I think about getting on T.


I basically begged my dad to help me get on hormones because I am so tired of trudging through dysphoria each day, and I can't wait 2 more years.
He told me "it's expensive," I KNOW that. But I'm going to use my own money. And when I told him I emailed a gender therapist and the therapist said that they have a sliding scale dipping below 75$ and they do a psychological evaluation that usually takes 1-2 sessions. But then he said "I don't feel comfortable with you doing this at just 16."

Then he told me a story that his therapist told him: There was some person in the UK and they were doing therapy already for anxiety and bipolar disorder, then they came out as a lesbian, then bisexual, then transexual, but their therapist wouldn't give them hormones so they got an attorney and had the LGBT community basically force the therapist to give them hormones. (Not sure why that story is relevant to me? I am not bipolar and my anxiety/depression stems from dysphoria)

My dad's therapist also told him that "this" (getting hormone therapy) has become too streamlined and more of a business to make money than helping transgender people. Like anyone can now get hormones WAY too easily because the LGBT community is forcing everyone to do what they say or else "it's against their rights." (literally what my dad said she told him)

[Elis]

Well this is a load of bs. You need to tell him that transgender people are still discriminated against and we aren't doing this for 'fun'. Why would we risk persecution; unemployment and violence unless it was a biological need to match our body with our gender. I'd say just ignore him; take T and show him he's wrong. Wish you the best

[Laura_7]

Here are a few resources that could help:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,208438.msg1847638.html#msg1847638

There are resources showing being transgender is biological, from reputable sources.

This is another resource that might help understand:

http://www.acceptingdad.com/2013/08/05/to-the-unicorns-dad/

There are also online therapists who can write letters:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,187135.0.html

You are questioning your gender. that is a sign in itself . Cis people usually do not question their gender.
They are happy with their bodies.

You could look for a supportive gender therapist and move along as you feel comfortable.
The process may start with easy reversible changes, for example to hair and clothing style.
You are usually asked how you feel as you move along.
Hormones usually are started out slowly. During the first few weeks you can see how you feel, changes are still reversible.
So people are asked how they feel as the process moves along.

There will always be people regretting or stopping. Usually its because they put other people before themselves.

Like anyone can now get hormones WAY too easily because the LGBT community is forcing everyone to do what they say or else "it's against their rights." (literally what my dad said she told him)

Who is she helping here ? The focus always has to be on the client.
HRT is a step by step process. People are always asked how they feel, and its a process done with the consent of the client.

Again, cis people do not want this.

Saying people are helped too easy is disregarding the plight of people suffering.
There is a staggering amount of people being fend off. They marry and regret it later.
There is a significant other forum.
Your daddy and the therapist can read through stories of married people with children who regret having not done it earlier.
There are many of them.

Very few transgender people regret it. Many if asked said they wish they could have done it earlier.

If hrt is done early people usually can transition better bodywise and can move on living happy lifes.

Your dad and the therapist are invited to read up here and join.
Its not newspaper stories its a multitude of real people with real experiences really wanting to help other people move along, in the speed they feel comfortable with.

And you are not too young. There were always people knowing in a young age.
They might look up Jazz Jennings and Kim Petras.

*hugs* and keep going