PFLAG is probably a good place to start. people there can give you information and help on maybe therapist, etc. to see and whatever like that. although i'm on T for awhile now, i went to a meet up for transgender people my age with PFLAG and i actually found out new things i didn't know and that would have been super helpful for when i was in the beginning stages. i'm not sure if the toronto chapter of PFLAG has gender journeys but you should try to find out. i went to that too but i was already way further along in my transition then most of the people there. they were all newer transitioners looking for answers, questions, and trying to figure themselves out. that would be just for you, not your wife but they do have a like loved ones night for them to join, etc. it's about an 8? week program. give it a look.
