(pre-everything here): ive had this row with myself so many times its unreal. I guess for me at least my male side tries to argue that its because ive had sexual abuse for about 6 years and i just want it to end. But my female side was there waaaaay before the abuse started and ive always wanted to be more feminine, i.e. grow my hair and dye it which ive never been able to do.
for me its really hard to explain fully without divulging everything in the past but all i can say is regardless i know im female but theres constantly a little voice making me question if im wrong.
my advice would be to 100% see a gender therapist and wait for prescribed medication, by all means dress and look how you feel comfortable, just dont physically alter your body yet (as much as you want to)