living in fear

[Feminator]

Now that my wife is outwardly demonstrating hys masculinity more with binding, clothing choices and speech/gestures, I find myself fearful every single day for hys safety. I have never had this before, we have been together  for 11 years and up until now has identified as a Butch lesbian. I never worried about hym going to the bathroom, or having men hurt hyr etc.....today however, we were shopping out at Meynards, and hy had to use the bathroom. I initally said I would wait for hym to finish and continue shopping. After hy disappeared towards the rest rooms, I started to panic and set off to follow hym as well. Everything turned out just fine, no problems or anything, but I am at a loss of how to deal with or handle this type of fear that we are going to have to deal with every single day from here on out. Has anyone gone through this and how did you handle it?

Thanks in advance

[Dena]

I had surgery almost 34 years ago and for about 2.5 years before that I cross lived. In that time, I used public restrooms when I needed to and never drew attention or comment from anyone. Much of what you are seeing in the news just shows a few incidents where as hundreds of thousands of us use public restrooms every day without incidents. Your spouse may have reached the stage where it's possible to present as young boy and that is what everybody will see because they are not looking any deeper. It's good that you are concerned but this day needed to happen sooner or latter and now you should take comfort in the fact that the male restroom can be used without issues. I suspect you will still be nervous the next time this happens but over time you should lose your fear and take comfort that your spouse can move in society without issues.

[JoanneB]

Given the current climate of Bathroom nutz here in the US I can understand your concern. My wife constantly fears for my safety. The simple fact is 99.9999% there is never an issue. The remainder, sadly, is bad