Quote from: chris.deee on May 27, 2016, 06:42:25 PM
I so agree with this. I sometimes fantasize about a full time transition, but I doubt I would ever do it. Why?
- Male privilege is a thing. My male income allows the female part of my life to be pretty comfortable.
- I cherish the relationship I have with my wife and kids and don't want to risk damaging it. My wife knows but isn't involved in that part of my life, which is good enough for me.
- I'm able to live my male life in such a way that I'm not betraying myself, in a thousand and one ways.
- I get enough female time to leave me barely wanting more.
I also reserve the right to change my mind. Other than some hair removal, I've managed to keep my options open, which gives me so much peace of mind.
Your mileage may vary.
I have a hard time wrapping my head around the concept of "Non-Binary" applied to myself. It is an umbrella term withing the TG spectrum. Given a choice, opportunity with zero or minimal risk to me and all that I hold dear to my heart, I'd go full-time female in a heartbeat. Back in the 'Real World' .....
But, if some visitor from another galaxy came by and saw me, my life, my entirety of existence as lived today it fits the definition.
So, Do I wallow in self pity because I cannot live some idealized version of a life for me, Or say "Hey, I kinda got it all... But...." I got it all but not what I really want as far as ONE aspect of my life goes? The other half dozen or so, well they are smiling ear to ear. If it means saying I can present as male most days, have a body I LOVE to live in finally, and know I have found a way to live in peace with myself.
My therapist said to me, "Don't get hung up on labels". Perhaps I am not as "evolved" as she thinks I am since this engineer needs to have a have a flag planted in the ground to know where I am, vs where I was, vs where I would like to be, vs where I need to be. But then, Where I "Need" to be is where I am today, subject to change. MMMV (My Mileage May Vary)
