Confused

[Rhonda_is_me]

Admins, if this is in the wrong place, please move to where it should be. 

Is it weird that I am not attracted to males, yet wish to transition?  I hear that phrase "lesbian trapped in a males body" and think that is me 200%.  I have always seen myself as fem (figure, size, mindset, minus my extreme 5 o'clock shadow and my deep voice I could possibly be completely passable, etc) I grew up as a lot of others that you are a boy, so act as a boy.  But have always felt something missing, a part of me that is scared to show herself.

[Semira]

It doesn't sound weird to me. I've been wanting to be female for most of my life but I'm not attracted to men at all.

[Rhonda_is_me]

glad to know I am not the only one.

[Ms Grace]

Nope, not weird. Your gender identity is not your sexual identity. Just as there are cis women attracted to women there are trans women attracted to women.

[Dena]

As you explore the site more, you will discover a number of our MTF members are remaining with their wife after the transition. In addition, you will discover some of our FTM are remaining with their husband. Our sexual orientation doesn't change in the transition but it's possible to discover you were bisexual instead of heterosexual. When I was in group therapy, this was one of the subjects we discussed and we even asked each person which gender they would be interested in. I was the odd ball in the lot because I was and still am asexual. This was back in the late 1970's and it's still true today.

[popa910]

Thank you for posting this, Rhonda_is_me!!

I'm still figuring my gender identity out for myself, but I know I definitely am attracted to women!

This has made figuring things out for myself extremely challenging, because it can be hard to separate these aspects of myself sometimes.

[Rhonda_is_me]

Thank you for posting this, Rhonda_is_me!!

I'm still figuring my gender identity out for myself, but I know I definitely am attracted to women!

This has made figuring things out for myself extremely challenging, because it can be hard to separate these aspects of myself sometimes.

Very much so. I have denied myself many times due to the fact that I thought I was only a Crossdresser because I have no attraction to men. 

[V M]

As mentioned, your gender identity is completely separate from your sexual identity

Myself, I self identify as a female but may tend to possibly be bisexual in that I find mostly other females attractive but also find some males attractive as well

Although there isn't actually anyone that I seriously find sexually appealing at this time it is possible that could change

Never know who you might meet in this life

[Rhonda_is_me]

It is nice to know that I am not the only one who felt like this.  Reiterates the fact that I believe I am making the right choice in finally speaking about it and moving fwd with my transition.  I have been skeptical in the past and up till now because of that confusion in my mind.  For the last cpl weeks since I have finally decided I NEED to take this step for ME, I want to scream it and tell everyone I know.  But scared of the reprecusions (live with room mates and do not wish to loose my living situation) as well as timid about how my work will respond.  Have a very strong feeling I will need to find a new job once there are noticeable changes from the HRT.  One of the 2 owners is very ummmmm not sure correct word.  But I do know her Nephew is transgender (ftm) and says nothing but horrible things about him due to fact he is Trans.  His dad is my boss (small company, owner and co owner are married.  My supervisor is the father to the nephew.

[arice]

I am definitely a gay man in a feminine body. I have known that since my teens. I have spent 20 years trying to pass as a straight woman and it was destroying my soul.

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[Dena]

It is nice to know that I am not the only one who felt like this.  Reiterates the fact that I believe I am making the right choice in finally speaking about it and moving fwd with my transition.  I have been skeptical in the past and up till now because of that confusion in my mind.  For the last cpl weeks since I have finally decided I NEED to take this step for ME, I want to scream it and tell everyone I know.  But scared of the reprecusions (live with room mates and do not wish to loose my living situation) as well as timid about how my work will respond.  Have a very strong feeling I will need to find a new job once there are noticeable changes from the HRT.

Times have changed a good deal from when I transitioned and may people just don't care if you are transgender. Others see what they want to see. Take a look at this thread and you may find it possible to pick the day you want to go public. If you are bold and self assured, people don't question you and will accept you. If you cower people will be less likely to accept you.

[Rhonda_is_me]

Times have changed a good deal from when I transitioned and may people just don't care if you are transgender. Others see what they want to see. Take a look at this thread and you may find it possible to pick the day you want to go public. If you are bold and self assured, people don't question you and will accept you. If you cower people will be less likely to accept you.

Thank you very much Dena.  That thread definitely put me at ease some.  I am not worried about finding new work if need be, or even eventually finding new place to live if it was to come down to it (which I am in the works of doing now as it is, tired of roomates. lol) but will really suck if have to do both at the same time as I am transitioning.