Yikes, Miss Lux, that sounds awful. But I guess its hard to turn away and walk out once one is committed in that hospital and is afraid one would not get a refund if one cancels due to the state of the hospital...
Clara - that sounds like you had a good plan. I myself am honestly less clear in what I really want. I have no special feature that I need to fix - no extra strong masculine part that I need to check for if some of the surgeons can do it or not. I am androgynous and so basically I would need to find a surgeon that can work with that and is not just good at making very masculine faces more female, but one that can make an already androgynous and in some parts feminine face look absolutely female and beautiful

- ok, thats the maximum wishlist of course

Most surgeons show cases of people with big bossing or strong jaws and all that - to show how good they can change that, but rarely I see pictures of people that start out more in the middle and if they add makeup in the pictures its even harder to tell how good the change really was.
Sadly it is hard to find independent sources. Even Alexandra who does the VFFS has a tendency to be in tune with FacialTeam, since they adhere to similar principles about facial feminization, which lead them to start working together. This is ok, but of course it also tends to result in Facialteam being usually the best match in respect to the procedures she suggest, because they just think about FFS the same way in terms of priorities and approaches. Still, her assessment matched that of the 4 consultations I had so far, so she will not tell you something that is not true, its not really a bias but more of a parallel thinking, I believe.
I am uncertain about the advantages or disadvantages of filling the frontal sinus - I wonder if filling it may actually be a good thing because of stability and also because one would not have to worry about sinusitis in that part anymore - but then again, I can imagine it also has downsides? Did you research about this?
Dr Spiegel being originally an ENT may actually be a plus, I just realized. So maybe I need to get a consultation with him, because my sinuses are always an issue - maybe he could resulve some functional issues alongside doing FFS - although this seems something other surgeons also claim to be doing.
So overall I am not sure if I want "more agressive" or "more subtle" work, because I am not sure what a modification of a face from androgynous to female would be considered - is it subtle because one has to change less - or is it more agressive because unloess you do more than just a bit, the change will not be noticed?
I personally also think that travel distance is a secondary issue - after all , one spends a lot of money and time for FFS - what is a bit longer flight or some more hotel costs in comparison...