job stuff... what to do

[ChelseaAnn]

OK, so I'm finally starting hrt in November, if all goes according to plan. I just had a phone interview with a potential employer, and was honest with them. They said they would support me, but I have to wait to hear back for an in person interview.
My current employer knows nothing. The pay would be the same, and the schedule would change so I get my weekends back. I could theoretically just give my two weeks notice to my current job, and they wouldn't know anything. But I'm wondering if I should be honest with them (once I'm offered a job at the other place), to see if they have any incentives to keep me around. One of the supervisors had a drug addiction, and they paid for half of his treatment.
Note: both employers are iin the same city, with trans protection laws.

[Dena]

I never interviewed for a job while I was employed as I was blindsided by the company I worked for. However I think the way the game is played is you don't bargain with your current employer until you have the offer for the new job in hand. I think a consideration would be which company is the strongest and the least likely to lay you off. The ones I worked for had a bad habit of going broke sooner or latter. 

[Kelly Girl]

OK, so I'm finally starting hrt in November, if all goes according to plan. I just had a phone interview with a potential employer, and was honest with them. They said they would support me, but I have to wait to hear back for an in person interview.
My current employer knows nothing. The pay would be the same, and the schedule would change so I get my weekends back. I could theoretically just give my two weeks notice to my current job, and they wouldn't know anything. But I'm wondering if I should be honest with them (once I'm offered a job at the other place), to see if they have any incentives to keep me around. One of the supervisors had a drug addiction, and they paid for half of his treatment.
Note: both employers are iin the same city, with trans protection laws.

Hi , I like the weekends off aspect , and if your hired they said they got your back .
Its always good to see if your current employer actually values you enough to not lose you , but as was said , not a good idea to haggle till you formally seal the deal with the potential one first . We all know negotiating can turn ugly real quick and you could end up with no job , never good .
The other aspect is you sound like your no longer cozy with hiding YOU from any employer including current one , but your afraid if they do know then it can backfire and jeopardize your standing there at present .
That's a tough one , because your not gonna know what they're are made of till you drop that proverbial bombshell on um .
Weekends , Got your back , new digs , that's where I'm leaning if it were I .
Good luck either way , and congratulations on HRT pretty soon , exciting stuff :-)

Kelly Girl out

[sigsi]

I'd be *very* careful until you have the next job officially. I applied for a job while still in my last job (part time, not the best place). I intended to keep both jobs, but didn't tell my current employer. When others at my work had another part time job, my boss slowly cut them off the schedule and eventually never called them back. Well the place I applied to called my work to see if I was good, and my boss got offended/confronted me about it the next day (I was a good worker by the way). I ended up not being able to get the new job for miscellaneous reasons, and my boss just decided not to call me back after the building closed for the holiday a few months later.
I'd say to make sure you have the job first. Then go for it to see what they offer and consider what you risk by staying. I'd still vote to take the newer position though, just in case they turned on you later. And you know, weekends are fun too.
It all depends on how your your current boss and their "professionalism" is though. Good luck.

[ChelseaAnn]

I do apologize, I wrote the post hastily. I don't plan on saying anything to my current employer until I hear a job offer from the other place first. But thank you all for your concern.

[Cynthia Johnson]

If you did negotiate to stay, I would be honest about hrt, since it could impact your emotions and potentially your performance at some point.

[Eva Marie]

In my experience bargaining with your current employer in this type of a situation is a bad thing. If they keep you it breeds bad feelings by the employer and you can bet that in retaliation they will make plans to replace you and they will cut you at the first opportunity. It costs a tremendous amount of money to train a new employee so for that reason smart employers make efforts to ensure that key employees are happy employees. If your current employer doesn't care about happy employees then they aren't very smart. Bargaining also ensures that you'll never be able to come back to work for them and it may black ball you in the industry that you are in.

It is far better to look quietly for another position realizing that it will only take one phone call from a prospective employer to out you to your current employer. If you do get outed in this way your current employer may pull you in for a chat - and thats the time to air any gripes in a non-emotional and thoughtful way.

If you do leave it's always better to make a clean professional break and to leave no hard personal feelings behind.

[sigsi]

I do apologize, I wrote the post hastily. I don't plan on saying anything to my current employer until I hear a job offer from the other place first. But thank you all for your concern.

Ooh okay then good! If you plan on staying or really want to stay even after you are accepted, I would be hesitant to bring it up to your current employer. If your boss is reasonable/somewhat sane and you curious how what they would offer, see what happens. Good luck either way

Edit: I like what you said Eva Marie