Quote from: kittykatz on June 14, 2016, 03:20:36 AM
I'm mostly upset at how she has treated me since coming out. One minute she loves me and tells me the reason we can't be together is that I can't be with a woman. This is true, I don't want a wife. The next minute she tells me she hasn't been happy with our marriage for a while - this is a complete surprise to me. We were loving and close up until the day she came out to me. Mourning the loss of my husband and best friend is painful enough, but feeling rejected and distant from her is in some ways worse. She treats me very differently now, which I feel is so unfair as all I have done is show her love and care. I didn't think it was possible for someone to change so much, so fast overnight.
This may not mean much/ make you feel better. But I have experienced a very similar treatment to you. My partner left me really suddenly, transitioned suddenly- and basically told me it was just because of me and had nothing to do with her desire to transition. I did make my mistakes- but the way that she chose to be done with them/me right when she transitioned left me feeling almost like it was my fault that she wanted to. It's such a confusing feeling to almost feel like you are the enemy- or the one that caused them to feel this way, when you are treated so differently after they decide to transition. My ex partner has no communication of any sort with me- but has let many people into her life. Its almost like just like the old her has died- I am dead to her also. Its the most painful thing I have been through in my life.
I wish I could give you more advice. I would say try to be as supportive/open with your spouse as you can if you still want to be with him/ her after she transitions. If not, maybe your spouse can at least have the heart to give you more of an explanation of why she is acting the way she is. I know I don't have much advice to offer, but I just want you to know you aren't alone in your feelings. Sometimes I feel like I am- but when I read about other SOs I don't feel quite as alone.
hugs.
brittany
