Hormones unbalanced. Good for me. Bad for others.

[PeterSteele]

So I want to be a man. Recently for a checkup at the doctors they saw how I have more hair on my body in a more masculine way. Also my periods are happening like once a few months. So I happily have more Testosterone than Estrogen. I'm proud but the doctor isn't..So they want me to go to an endocrinologist to get my hormones balanced so they will put more Estrogen in me.. I even told them I want to be a man but they said "You probably feel this way since your hormones are unbalanced." And my Grandfather and my Dad agrees but my mom is my only supporter. Anyways what do I do? Also do you think its really from a hormone unbalance that's why I feel this way?

[Dena]

The way you feel is not from your hormones being unbalanced and if they put you on estrogen it will only increase the discomfort you feel. You need to see a gender therapist and possibly and endocrinologist who will determine if you are intersex or if there is another reason for your testosterone levels being so high. Your parents are welcome to join the site and use the Significant Others section to discuss this with us. I have seen far to many cases where balancing out somebodies hormones ruined their life instead of improved it.

On the plus side, this condition may have existed before you were born and would explain your masculine identity.

[sigsi]

I haven't been able to get my hormone levels checked yet (plan to when I eventually get to a doctor's office again), but I am about 75% sure that I have too much estrogen in my body. One reason I started wondering this is because I get long (painful) periods as well as hormonal *soreness* weeks before. 😛 I was also mostly fine before puberty, which again makes me wonder what estrogen did to mess up my head. Either way, I still don't want to be a female, even though my body clearly thinks I should be content being a woman.

I would definitely not recommend more estrogen going into your body though, the birth control I once used had horrid estrogen side effects. If your doctor won't listen to you, you could always change to a different doctor that would *potentially* be more open minded. Thankfully your mom supports you (stick with her 🙂 ), but as for your grandmother and dad, is there any way you could just ignore them or tell them the doctor said differently? I don't know where you live, your age or how much you are depending on them, but I don't think anyone really has to know what is going on in there except if needed for insurance stuff last I checked. Either way good luck, I still vote for changing doctors if possible.

[Shady]

I don't quite understand. Is the doctor aware that you are trans? Did you tell him that you were feeling that way since you were born? You just have to make it clear to him that you want to change gender, cause otherwise he will think that what you're saying is a consequence of what he's seeing in the labs.

Having hormonal imbalances can be unhealthy, so the doc is just doing his job. I would suggest clarifying your intentions with him during the next appointment.

Good luck!

Edit : Yes, hormonal imbalances can alter libido pretty significantly, but if you've felt that way since you were young, then it's probably something else 🙂