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Started by Blackwaters427, July 01, 2016, 01:39:08 AM

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Blackwaters427

Hi everyone my name (for now) is Andrew. I just registered for this site about 5min ago, so if I'm posting this in the wrong section of the website, I apologize.

I'd like to give a bit of background info about myself. I'm 24, I have an ex-wife and a son who just turned 4 yesterday :), I also have a girlfriend who has been very supportive of me during this time of my life. This all started on Christmas Eve in 2015. I had just gotten home from work and I was about to go to bed when I felt dysphoria rear her head into me for the first time. It lasted for a little over a week but I managed to shake the feeling and return to my normal life until just a few weeks ago when it came back exponentially stronger. It hit me like a freight train and I don't know how to handle it. To tell you how new I am to this, I don't own a single piece of women's clothing and I know nil about make up (mainly due to not having any money coming in until I can find a second job and the fact that I don't know what to shop for or how). I'm pretty much a newborn transgender lol. All I've been able to do so far is shaving legs, etc. and wearing my hair in more girly styles. That's it.

At first, I felt like I was a man but I wanted to be a woman, but now after some exploration (partially the shaving and hair experimentation, partially meditation and prayer) I feel like I AM a woman; I just don't have the anatomy to match.  Where do I go from here?

Also, I'd like to post a pic of my ugly mug so I can maybe get some tips on making it look better. How do I do that?
Begin drifting, defy the laws of gravity
Stare at the sun, challenging all reality
The glass door to my soul is shattering
The bridges to my past are collapsing
I feel new energy, This is my quickening
Transcending to a new dimension

      Fire From the Gods - "End Transmission"

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Dena

Welcome to Susan's Place. One of the first things you should consider is seeing a gender therapist. If you have insurance, that might cover it and some charge on a sliding scale. The remaining things like hair removal and constructing your new image will cost money but the people on the site have come up with imaginative ways of reducing the cost. Many shop second hand stores and get great discounts in clothes. Voice can be done with a speech therapist but many have feminized their voice without one.

As for images, you need to post the image on a photo server site like photo bucket, capture the url and include it in the post as followed.
[img]http://url.jpeg[/img]

We issue to all new members the following links so you will best be able to use the web site.

Things that you should read




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Michelle69Elizabeth

Sorry, I can't help with the pictures. :) Struggling with that myself.

You came to the right place for help. Welcome! :)
I am sure a mod will be along soon to welcome you and go over the rules of the site.

I would have to say the start for most of us is finding a good therapist.

Honestly, I don't wear makeup or know in anyway how to do my hair. My hair does what it wants to anyway. :)

When I figure out how, I will put my pictures in the 'Do I Pass?' Thread.
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V M

Hi Andrew  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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jessicadee

Nice to meet you. This is a great place with lots of great info too! A lot of us are still new to this amazing aspect of our lives.
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WarGrowlmon1990

Welcome to the site. I didn't realize I was trans til August of last year, so I'm kind of in the same stage as you. I'm a trans guy, but I own barely any male attire and don't have too much money to update my wardrobe. I'm a parent too (got a seven year old step-daughter, an almost three year old son and a one year old son... although to be honest, I'm wondering if any of them are trans like me or non-binary). I'm waiting for respite for my younger kids so that I can start seeing a gender therapist. While you're stuck in the waiting game/the beginning stages, this site is great to find information, ask questions or even vent if the dysphoria and misgendering gets really bad.
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Donna

My opinion, coming from non-binary transgender motorcyclist in her 60's......
It should be considered absolutely normal for anyone to want to be a woman. Who wouldn't?
To be female is to be wonderful and beautiful.
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