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Do I Look, or Could I Pass as, Female? 6.0

Started by V M, July 01, 2016, 10:09:56 AM

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Harley Quinn

Quote from: Confetti on September 05, 2016, 05:57:08 PM
Tried a shorter, natural colour hairstyle. Not too sure how I feel about it as of yet, i've never tried a short style.


and my usual black/grey ombre:


Still unsure if I would pass yet but i'm
Soooo frustrated with myself that I can't bring myself to come out, I don't know whats stopping me and why there is a barrier. :(

Well, first the easy one...  I totally love your natural hair color!  And the short hair looks great.  Shows off your neck.  Not that I dislike the black and grey...  it's fun, but would definately depend on you personal style.  I love that short wig though....

Next, the tougher one on passing and coming out...  I would say you're pretty darn close to "passing" on looks alone.  You look adorable...  As for coming out...  that's extremely understandable.  Most all human beings are guarded about putting their soul out on display for judgement.  For our community, that's generally our physical being that we hold tighly to and keep guarded.  It's difficult, but it does get easier after letting that first person in.  Knowing yourself is the first step, and there's no rush to coming out and letting people in.  It sounds cliche, but don't sweat the small stuff...  Do what's right for you and always in your own time.  I still haven't let everyone in on my life...  I have told a select few, but the rest will come in time.  So please don't fret too much on the coming out portion.  It isn't a prerequisite for you being you.  Smile and enjoy the days for what they bring.
At what point did my life go Looney Tunes? How did it happen? Who's to blame?... Batman, that's who. Batman! It's always been Batman! Ruining my life, spoiling my fun! >:-)
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Confetti

Quote from: Harley Quinn on September 05, 2016, 06:13:27 PM
Well, first the easy one...  I totally love your natural hair color!  And the short hair looks great.  Shows off your neck.  Not that I dislike the black and grey...  it's fun, but would definately depend on you personal style.  I love that short wig though....

Next, the tougher one on passing and coming out...  I would say you're pretty darn close to "passing" on looks alone.  You look adorable...  As for coming out...  that's extremely understandable.  Most all human beings are guarded about putting their soul out on display for judgement.  For our community, that's generally our physical being that we hold tighly to and keep guarded.  It's difficult, but it does get easier after letting that first person in.  Knowing yourself is the first step, and there's no rush to coming out and letting people in.  It sounds cliche, but don't sweat the small stuff...  Do what's right for you and always in your own time.  I still haven't let everyone in on my life...  I have told a select few, but the rest will come in time.  So please don't fret too much on the coming out portion.  It isn't a prerequisite for you being you.  Smile and enjoy the days for what they bring.

Thankyou!  :laugh:

That's great advice too, I think I need to just take small steps. I'm very guarded in general and don't really talk about my feelings/emotions with my family and friends so I just need to get over that.
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jenifer356

haven't been around for a while and for some reason I can't see many of the photos in messages - guess i'll have to try playing around with settings or something - in the meantime decided to upload a profile pic

be well
jenifer
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Dena

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SoraKat

this is how i look day to day right now. other than the obvious beard shadow to address (expenses Xc) and growing my hair out longer (working on it), and waiting on hormones to do their thing (just started month three), how can i improve my passability?

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Rhonda Lynn

Quote from: SoraKat on September 09, 2016, 03:15:04 PM
this is how i look day to day right now. other than the obvious beard shadow to address (expenses Xc) and growing my hair out longer (working on it), and waiting on hormones to do their thing (just started month three), how can i improve my passability?


Actually, I think that you have a face that is a good starting point. Your eyes and cheekbones are very nice and when you learn to draw attention to them, I think you'll look very pretty.

One of the first things that I noticed was your adam's apple. A simple way and inexpensive way to hide it in the short term is with a scarf. Also, a scarf in the right color, that goes with your outfit can add to your feminine presentation. There are lots of ways that you can tie a scarf too that you can learn with very little effort.

Of course, you'll need to learn how to use make-up. There is a lot on YouTube.

Yes, smile and relax. Women often express emotions that engender warmth and friendliness. Men perhaps more strength and command. Think, a man walks in and is saying through his expression "I'm a tough guy and want respect!" A woman walks in and through her expression "Hi everyone, I'm new but hoping we can all be friends!"

Overgeneralizing, but this is a big part of the difference in the way boys and girls are socialized. 
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alex82

Quote from: SoraKat on September 09, 2016, 03:15:04 PM
this is how i look day to day right now. other than the obvious beard shadow to address (expenses Xc) and growing my hair out longer (working on it), and waiting on hormones to do their thing (just started month three), how can i improve my passability?



It depends what you want really. I have to say, I didn't notice your Adam's apple until it was pointed out, and it doesn't look like the silk scarf route is your style. If anything, it might hinder you as a completely out of place element.

There's no of course about you having to wear make up, unless you want to.

I know several lesbians who look pretty much the way you do in terms of hairstyle and piercings and lack of make up, and I wouldn't have you down as the male if you were in a line up with them.

You have a narrow face and delicate cheek bones, good eyebrows, and a normal female hairline. Without the Adam's apple - yes, it is prominent now I've seen it, but it didn't jump out at me, I'd really just assume you were probably a lesbian, who preferred piercings to false eyelashes. Not a butch lesbian either, just one with a kind of alternative style. And therefore, female.

Sorry if you're straight btw  ;)

What's your aim? You really don't look out of the female range as it is, and once the shadow and the apple is gone, you could probably just go with what you're already doing. There's no point in loads of make up if the facial piercing stuff is your style preference instead. I honestly think it would have the opposite effect to the intention, but it's really up to you and how you envisage yourself.
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Rhonda Lynn

Wasn't thinking silk.



Just for example. Sort of big, but it's in the colors you're wearing and the material is natural like what you have on.

And the question was something to do "right now" and I was trying to address the first thing I saw. I also didn't mention it, but was thinking it would help cover the darkness on the neck if you didn't want to bother with heavy make-up on it until you get further along with electrolysis.

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SoraKat

thank you for the feedback :) normally i wear scarves, but it isn't quite fall here yet. in that photo im wearing light foundation and the tiniest bit of mascara (was out looking for work today and not trying to go femme) , but not really anything else, so being clocked as "non-butch lesbian" is hilarious cause thats what i am (just made me really really happy) XD my hair is just in the weird middle phase as i'm growing it out.

for comparison, and further analysis, me with only light foundation (had an interview and had to go guy mode but my skin isn't perfect):
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Dani

Quote from: GiaFarrell on September 05, 2016, 02:15:38 PM
So here's me at 5mths HRT, I've had 4 sessions of laser, and lost about 55lbs since coming out to myself last October 2015.

Makeup



No makeup


Body




-Fara

Fara,

Honestly, I feel you are much more attractive without makeup. But this is just my preference.
I find fitness models with minimal makeup most attractive. This is my appearance goal. Minimal makeup for me.
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Harley Quinn

Quote from: Dena on September 08, 2016, 06:38:49 PM
Many people don't leave their pictures up for very long. A few use servers that have limited access. If you receive some of the pictures, the problem may not be on your end.
Mine are taken down after a day, or when the response is viewed. So they're not viewable very long.
At what point did my life go Looney Tunes? How did it happen? Who's to blame?... Batman, that's who. Batman! It's always been Batman! Ruining my life, spoiling my fun! >:-)
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Breenyan

4 years in, i'm trying to get towards being un-clockable.
but something in me wonders if it's even attainable.

shoulders. hips. always the problem in my way.
I like pandas?
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Rachel_Christina

Quote from: Breenyan on September 12, 2016, 02:59:25 AM
4 years in, i'm trying to get towards being un-clockable.
but something in me wonders if it's even attainable.

shoulders. hips. always the problem in my way.

It would be very hard to be 100% unclockable, that term doesn't really even make sense though.
People might think you may not be genetic female, but thats all it is thinking, nowadays people look at genetic girls and think the same thing, and they are wrong too.
But its cool to see another Car girl, is it your Genesis?
You look pretty passable anyway


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Drexy/Drex

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Lilliana

Quote from: GiaFarrell on September 05, 2016, 02:15:38 PM
So here's me at 5mths HRT, I've had 4 sessions of laser, and lost about 55lbs since coming out to myself last October 2015.

-Fara

Wow, you look great and we also kind of share the same facial structure.

I love that term, "Coming out to yourself."  That is really the hardest thing.
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Micki

Thank you so much Markie! I do appreciate it, everyone here is so pretty, so that's such a kind thing to say!
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sarah1972



First time makeup and wig... Still all pre everything... Home Office look for today


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