Do I Look, or Could I Pass as, Female? 6.0

[Maid Marion]

I think if you grew out your hair the beard shadow would be less noticeable.  It may be more manageable if it gets longer. 

[barbie]

Browsed through this forum for a while, just dying to know I guess what others think of me; since I've
never asked anyone else.  Also this is the first time I've gotten my picture taken in about 10 years haha.

Yes. Most women keep their hair tidy. Long and tidy hair may make you look more feminine. You may use hair treatments after shampooing for tidier hair: https://www.totalbeauty.com/content/gallery/best-hair-treatments

For facial hairs, you may try Tria home laser, which worked greatly for me about 5 years ago (I no longer shave).

For eye glasses, you may try a laser correction such as Lasik or Lasek. As I know, they becomes far more safer nowadays.

barbie~~

[jill610]

Ok it's been a while and I think I've made progress, though the swelling from my FFS six weeks ago is still pretty significant. After now 12 laser sessions (last on 12/26/18), the blue is nearly gone, mostly just on the upper lip these days.




And my "I'm working on the car on the lift, don't bother me and oh by the way I don't want to be doing this" look lol. Couldn't find my clear safety glasses.

[Dena]

Thank you for your replies. Yes the facial hair is a huge issue, I have started laser but on my upper body.  I did have a few treatments on my face but the treatment times were too far apart for it to work well for my face since I go every 8 weeks.  The place I go to get my laser done is over 2 hours away so going up there that often would take too much gas for me to afford sadly.  For me getting rid of this awful body hair would make me feel better, and then once its gone start on my face; since I had alot of body hair.  Good news is about half of it is gone so far so im very happy with the results so far.  One day I may try makeup, to cover up the beard shadow, until I can start laser/electro on my face; but im afraid of how ill be looked at if its really noticeable, also i'm not that smart so I assume i'll look like a clown for a while hehe

Many people have had a great reduction of body hair when they start HRT. Unfortunately facial hair doesn't respond the same way so the normal approach is to start on facial hair then attack body hair if it doesn't respond to HRT.

[Andie1963]

Ok it's been a while and I think I've made progress, though the swelling from my FFS six weeks ago is still pretty significant. After now 12 laser sessions (last on 12/26/18), the blue is nearly gone, mostly just on the upper lip these days.




And my "I'm working on the car on the lift, don't bother me and oh by the way I don't want to be doing this" look lol. Couldn't find my clear safety glasses.

You look amazing and you give me hope for my future.


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[jill610]

You look amazing and you give me hope for my future.


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Thank you, there is always hope!

Without optimism and a good sense of humor and ability to laugh at myself, I'm afraid I would have given up a long time ago.

[Linde]

Ok it's been a while and I think I've made progress, though the swelling from my FFS six weeks ago is still pretty significant. After now 12 laser sessions (last on 12/26/18), the blue is nearly gone, mostly just on the upper lip these days.




And my "I'm working on the car on the lift, don't bother me and oh by the way I don't want to be doing this" look lol. Couldn't find my clear safety glasses.

I always liked the way you look.  I don't know how to say it, but your look appeals to me, specifically the way you look in that lilac colored top.

[Andie1963]

Thank you, there is always hope!

Without optimism and a good sense of humor and ability to laugh at myself, I'm afraid I would have given up a long time ago.

So happy for you that you never gave up, you are just very beautiful and again, you give me hope


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[jill610]

I always liked the way you look.  i don't know ho to say it, but you look appeals to me, specifically the way you look in that lilac colored top.

Thank you! Purple and Blue hues make up the majority of my wardrobe these day, so glad for the feedback that it's working. I still have a tough time shopping by myself.

[Linde]

but im afraid of how ill be looked at if its really noticeable, also i'm not that smart so I assume i'll look like a clown for a while hehe

One thing you have to learn if you want to become a confident woman, you never put yourself down! 
Because when you put yourself down, it ill become a self fulfilling prophecy, and people will start to look at you as if you are not smart!

You are a very smart person, because you were able to analyze your feelings, and started to act to them!  None of us were born with makeup skills, we all had to lern them.  Start learning, watch youtube videos, ask a female friend to help you, but don't you ever say again that you are not smart!

[jill610]

One thing you have to learn if you want to become a confident woman, you never put yourself down! 
Because when you put yourself down, it ill become a self fulfilling prophecy, and people will start to look at you as if you are not smart!

You are a very smart person, because you were able to analyze your feelings, and started to act to them!  None of us were born with makeup skills, we all had to lern them.  Start learning, watch youtube videos, ask a female friend to help you, but don't you ever say again that you are not smart!

Good advice here.

YouTube is a great resource, though in the same way instagram is. I still can't get those holiday treats to look quite right...

[Linde]

Thank you! Purple and Blue hues make up the majority of my wardrobe these day, so glad for the feedback that it's working. I still have a tough time shopping by myself.

You will learn that over time.  I am working on that all my adult life already. My wife took me along as her shopping buddy I seem to have a sixth sense for what fits together (maybe another trade of intersex?).  But once in a while it really helps to have another person along, who is willing to be critical and say that something looks horrible on me!

So, just hang in there!

[jill610]

You will learn that over time.  I am working on that all my adult life already. My wife took me along as her shopping buddy I seem to have a sixth sense for what fits together (maybe another trade of intersex?).  But once in a while it really helps to have another person along, who is willing to be critical and say that something looks horrible on me!

So, just hang in there!

It's funny, I can dress everyone else but me! Thanks for the encouragement.

[Maid Marion]

It may be that you look too closely at yourself looking for flaws that most people would never notice.
You are more concerned with the general impression your clothes give.

I have a button up cardigan that lies perfectly flat when fully  buttoned up.  I think most people wouldn't notice.

[Drexy/Drex]

Ok it's been a while and I think I've made progress, though the swelling from my FFS six weeks ago is still pretty significant. After now 12 laser sessions (last on 12/26/18), the blue is nearly gone, mostly just on the upper lip these days.




And my "I'm working on the car on the lift, don't bother me and oh by the way I don't want to be doing this" look lol. Couldn't find my clear safety glasses.

Absolutely....you look cute totally girlie....the girl next door

[KatieP]

Ok it's been a while and I think I've made progress, though the swelling from my FFS six weeks ago is still pretty significant. After now 12 laser sessions (last on 12/26/18), the blue is nearly gone, mostly just on the upper lip these days.




And my "I'm working on the car on the lift, don't bother me and oh by the way I don't want to be doing this" look lol. Couldn't find my clear safety glasses.

The picture on the upper right, in the gray T-shirt: You look so totally feminine on that picture! Total, 100% Pass and beyond.

Cute. Attitude. Sexy.

No male anywhere in that picture.

Really fabulous.

Kate

[KimOct]

Browsed through this forum for a while, just dying to know I guess what others think of me; since I've
never asked anyone else.  Also this is the first time I've gotten my picture taken in about 10 years haha.



I think my bathroom lights are too bright, lol.  I also haven't "tried" to make myself appear more feminine, other
than letting my hair grow out a little.



Heres another one, I tried to smile a little, also my hair is always a mess, lol.  Also wearing my glasses, I don't like
glasses but wearing contacts gets annoying some days.  Not sure if glasses are a plus or minus, I have gotten
compliments about my glasses so I don't know.

I rarely post in this thread but I could not help myself.  Just the title of the thread alone opens up an entire pandora's box of discussion topics. 

Admittedly I am a hypocrite about passing.  I do not deny it.  On one hand I want to pass because I want to be percieved as a woman on the other hand there are so many issues with wanting to pass.   Is it because we don't want people to know we are trans?  If so then why?  It's who we are, if we feel no shame then why do we not want people to know.

And yet I have done electrolysis - I get my hair colored every 6 weeks.  When I put my makeup on every morning I want it to look good and be thought of as feminine.  And yet cis women do the same thing.

I guess the healthy way to look at it is - 'do I look presentable'?  To me it is even more important for me as a transwoman.  Hypocritical?  Yeah sure - but I admitted that upfront. 

Regarding your appearance Kitten I think you have a lot of good stuff going for you.  As others have said - work on your hair - length alone does not equal feminine, some eye makeup would be great for you.  Your eyes are well shaped draw attention to that.  If you can't afford or don't want electrolysis at this time find a good foundation / concealer for the beard.  You may have to try several before finding the right one.

You have a lot of good stuff going on - you just need to utilize it.  Just like a cis-woman does too.
But also ask yourself WHY do I want to pass?  I think that is as important or more important question than do I pass?

[Linde]

And yet I have done electrolysis - I get my hair colored every 6 weeks.  When I put my makeup on every morning I want it to look good and be thought of as feminine.  And yet cis women do the same thing.

I guess the healthy way to look at it is - 'do I look presentable'?  To me it is even more important for me as a transwoman. 

I am very much like you Kim, I want to look as good as I possibly can when I leave my house.  But I do not differ much in this from many cis women, after all, makeup was invented and developed for them, not for us trans women!
For the same reason I want to have my hair done nice, and wear nice clothing, I simply want to look good!
Longer hair helps to make it is easier to have nice looking do with it, and make up is also made to use it on once face and eyes.
Kitten 23, I think you have quite some potential to look very nice, but you have to do something with it!

[Shambles]

Thoughts on this?

[Linde]

Thoughts on this?

Pretty cool looking lady in that picture!
Wanne go on a date with me?