What do I do?

[jaydee10]

I have been with my partner for 9 months, and I could not begin to describe how happy I've been. I've never had so much fun with someone before. I'm madly in love. In April they told me that they felt as if they were in the wrong body, shortly after they began taking hormones to start on their MTF transition. The news was devastating to me, and I didn't know if I could continue in this relationship but they are my favorite person and I also couldn't imagine life without them.  In trying to learn more about this process the scariest thing for me has been that it seems most MTF on HRT discover they are attracted to males? I guess this is just a long intro to an impossible to answer question but, is it worth it to try to make a relationship work during this process? Or is it more fair to my partner that I let them experience this journey on their own? I love him so much, and just want to do what would be best so they can be happy. Even if it isn't with me 

[Lady Sarah]

It is too soon to worry about any change in whom your partner may be Interested in somewhere down the road. Many never change their sexual orientation. What your partner needs the most right now is love and support. Keep on doing the fun things that make you both happy, and watch that joy grow as time goes on. It may get much better.

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Over the last year I have been reading many thousands of post on the site and it's very common for a person who is transitioning to try and remain with their spouse. Around half the time the spouse as difficulty adjusting to the change and the relationship breaks up. Those that switch orientation in the transition tend to be bisexual and were most likely suppressing that side of their personality both from themselves and others.

It's time for honest talk on both sides. Your partner need to be clear about her feeling and you need to be clear about what is and isn't acceptable to you. With honesty, you will have the best shot at staying together.

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[Marienz]

Hi
I understand how you feel, thinking about the Whats if's during this process is hard not to do:)
My suggestion is not to worry to much if you can about the "what could happen" as it may never happen:)
I focussed on those things at one stage too:)
Focus on looking after you and don't ignore your needs as in nice things to look after you during this time... Whilst giving your partner loads of love care support and acceptance of what you can and will tolerate:)
Good luck
Marie:)


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[Feminator]

Try not to worry, most of the people I know who transition stay with their current partner. Especially if you are supportive, I would still have to say that most will stay. Also, Sexual Orientation has NOTHING to do with gender presentation.  Sure they COULD switch, but it has nothing to do with hormones or anything else. Most of the FTM I know(from my partners group)l love males and females and identify bisexual, a couple now identify as gay and only one out of like 20 identify as straight. The MTF also appear to be about the same breakdown.
So, I would say the odds are good in your favor. Also, you two have love so that changes the whole dynamic.

[Marienz]

Hi jaydee10, just checking in to see how you're doing at the moment?
Marie


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