I will say, then, that I went to Brassard, who is known for producing consistently excellent appearance but prefers to try for average depth (he uses any extra tissue for additional detail work on the aesthetics instead). And I had a gynecologist tell my insurance I was a cis woman based on the looks down there (that was a weird mix of flattering and kind of a hassle to straighten out!). I'm also orgasmic and self-lubricating, so I lucked out and sensation and function are also very good. Depth is fine - like I said, it's not my priority, and I got his standard 5.5" and am quite content with that. If you really wanted a lot of depth, you might have wanted to look into the Thai surgeons after all, but since you don't, there are several in the US plus Brassard who do good work.
I've also heard nothing but bad things about Reid and Leis, and I believe there are some horror stories on this board somewhere. Otherwise, though, all the big names with sufficient experience will *usually* do a good job.